Emotional Intelligence : Why it can matter more than IQ

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Summary: Missing the Point
Review: In emotional intelligence, Daniel Goleman attempts to find solutions for problems he doesn't understand the basic root causes of. He believes the difficulties we are facing today, such as children's misbehavior, teen violence, and an ever increasing divorce rate, are due to the rapid change in society and the slow pace of evolution. According to him our brains aren't yet developed enough to handle the pressures we face and the knowledge we have obtained. Our moral decline is due to chemical imbalances and inherited genes. He makes it very clear throughout the book that he believes, given the "facts", it is the responsibility of public schools to step in at an early age and train children in morals and ethics since many parents aren't doing it right at home. He focuses on programs that teach relying on self and, except for a few outside quotes, dismisses faith in God as a possible solution. He is wrong.
The problems we have today are a direct result of the environment we have created through selfish choices and sinful desires and they all began with the notion that there is no such thing as absolute truth. Therefore, there are no set boundaries for which our children can rely on to guide them through life. There isn't one true God, but many, just pick one that makes you feel good or none at all, every option is equal. We have destroyed the family. Not only have we made breaking up the family easy and acceptable through "no fault" divorce, but we have redefined the family to include any combination that feels right to the people involved no matter how degenerate. We have become a society of excuses where violent crimes are no longer due to evil but to some childhood trauma or chemical imbalance. Through millions of abortions, the sacrificing of embryos for stem cell research, and the popularity of preaching the benefits of euthanasia, we have created an environment where life is no longer valued. Our children are constantly being sent mixed messages such as don't have sex, but if you do it's okay as long as you use a condom and stand up for what you believe in but if you speak out against homosexuality it's hate speech. Children are taught that there is no place in school for God, only the scientific facts that the teacher decides are accurate. The Theory of Evolution reduces our children to accidents of nature that ultimately will not be held accountable for their actions since they are merely animals evolved to a higher state. Liberal education has raised us to believe the strict child rearing of the past is obsolete and that children are our equals. Parents have become their children's buddy rather than their disciplinarian. Through feminist teaching, the traditional roles of men and women, in which we were created to fulfill, have been made to look wrong and outdated; therefore our children grow up in daycare learning how to live life by a stranger instead of in a secure home environment. Is it any wonder why our children are confused and we are losing control?
As a Christian parent with kids in public school, this book is offensive. Goleman's book is not objective but anti-religion propaganda. His lack of belief in God as a legitimate option for fixing today's problems is apparent throughout the entire book. The only science sited is that which reflects his belief system, whether it has been disproved in other studies or not. His true feelings are explicitly displayed in Appendix B where he describes religion as "logic of the heart" along with poetry, psychosis, children, dreams, and myths. He also considers Buddha, a man who abandoned his wife and son to selfishly seek enlightenment without God, equal to Jesus, the sinless Son of God that died for our sins and was resurrected so that our souls could be saved not through ourselves but through forgiveness. I am teaching my children that they do not have to rely on themselves or the latest self help program to get them through life. They can rely on God no matter what the situation. They are never alone and always have someone to turn to. They are being taught proven science that upholds creation and dismisses evolution as fraudulant. Further more, they are being taught that there is absolute truth and that the definition of right and wrong is clear in the Ten Commandments and does not change due to personal opinion or frequently used excuses. I would hope that I could send my children to school to learn English and Math without having to worry about whether their fundamental belief system of relying on God and not themselves, was being torn down by educators that, though are probably well meaning, are dangerously in error and stepping far beyond their bounds.

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Summary: Interesting look at social problems
Review: This is not the book I thought it would be. It looks at several interesting subjects such as why children with high Emotional Intelligence are more likely to earn more. It also covers the development of depression and how rage affects our ability to make decisions.

Emotional Intelligence is really the ability to understand, control and react accoringly to our emotions. This topic could have been covered more in depth, but otherwise this is a great book for business people and psychologists alike.

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Summary: The Groundbreaking Book On Social Intelligence
Review: Our success in life can depend more on our emotional development than on our IQ. Sometimes persons of high IQ flounder while those with modest IQ do surprising well. You will learn what it means to be smart in the ways of social development. Unlike IQ emotional intelligence is not fixed at birth.

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Summary: All you need to do is look around
Review: You don't need to be a psychologist, look at studies, real "science", vodoo, journals or any meta-anaylisis to know if the contents of this book is for real or not. This is not complicated: All you need to do after reading this book is sit for awhile, take a look at yourself and the people around you (family, co-workers, neighbors, etc.) Think of how you relate to them and they to you.... and get to your own conclusions. You will be surprised at what you find.

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Summary: Social intelligence
Review: This great book will help you to get along with other people. It is a brilliant modern-day version of "How to Win Friends and Influence People." I don't understand why this book is called "Emotional Intelligence" because it should be called "Social Intelligence." Dr. Goleman does explain the neurological basis of emotions but doesn't offer information about how to deal with specific emotions. If you want to understand the messages signaled by each emotion, how to best deal with them, and be emotionally self-reliant, I definitely recommend "Optimal Thinking: How To Be Your Best Self."

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Summary: A book that gives a new concept to the language
Review: The concept of ' Emotional Intelligence ' is at the center of this work. Goleman says that mere I.Q. is not enough to understand the likelihood of someone 's success in the world. He indicates a more important factor what he calls ' emotional intelligence'. By this he means self- awareness, persistence, empathy and the ability to understand and sympathize with the feeling of another. I do not know the social -science research in this area very well. But his concept did seem to confirm something that I had seen in a number of situations i.e. that it is peoples' ability to get along with other people which is a key element in many forms of life and work success. Perhaps I simply but this book makes a good case for this, providing also a large number of examples as confirmation.

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Summary: Should be required reading in every school
Review: This book is incredible. The coverage on the aspects of emotional intelligence is quite rich and easily read. I have introduced all of my kids and favored friends to the book and the concepts it contains.

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Summary: Ridiculous! That's the best way to describe this book.
Review: I'm a psychologist that has specialized in emotions. All I can say is that this book makes a mockery of science. Goleman has fooled millions to gain millions. Don't let him fool you too.

IQ is the most important individual trait predictor of success and there are thousands of studies to prove it. It's not everything, however, which is why personality--as traditionally studied (e.g., the big five framework)--should also be used to predict life success.

Goleman comes along with "new discoveries" shouting EUREKA...and people follow merely because others have followed and because the message sounds intuitively appealing. The message is false, specious, illusionary. Don't believe it.

If you really want to know more about the (...) head-quack Dan Goleman read a book that based on real science. It's called "Emotional Intelligence: Science and Myth" by Matthews, Zeidner, and Roberts.

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Summary: Pseudoscience and quackary at its best
Review: This advice is primarily written to those who do not know about how to conduct and read science: DO NOT WASTE YOUR MONEY ON THIS BOOK.

Emotional intelligence is voodoo science at its best. It sounds intuitively appealing but there nothing behind it. Plenty of research has now been undertaken and guess what? According to a recent meta-analysis (an integration of many studies) EQ correlates very weakly with work performance (in fact about 3 times less that does IQ--go ahead, take a look at the Journal of Vocational Behavior, a credible and well-respected scientific journal to check the accuracy of my statement).

But Goleman preaches the opposite; speculating where he shouldn't be. What he's done and currently doing is shocking and unethical. It seems that he's only in it for the money; or maybe, he's just not as smart (IQ!) as he makes out to be.