It's Not About Men

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Summary: Great Confidence Booster for Single Women!
Review: I am buying copies of this book for all of my single girlfriends! Newly single, and not happy about it, I bought this book on a whim and it helped me see my new status in a whole new light! This book helped give me confidence and has shown me ways I can THRIVE as a single woman, not just 'survive' until the next man comes along.
Thank you, L.J. McMillan! I am excited about my life!

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Summary: The Joys of Being Single and Independent
Review: Single women exists in a culture that still adheres to the "Noah's Ark" principle which dictates that women and men should march side-by-side, two-by-two in the romantic paradigm of couplehood. This society requires women to have men in their lives, almost like a romantic accessory, a sign of stability and normalcy. ~L.J. McMillan

Are you tired of men failing to meet your romantic expectations? Did you leave a relationship or have you decided to remain single? If you are married or in a relationship, is your entire day ruined when your significant other forgets to celebrate occasions you feel are essential and important to your emotional health? Can you break free from this cycle of expectation and disappointment? Basically, can you be happy without a man? While this book is mainly written for women who are single, I think there are some great lessons for us married gals or women in dating relationships.

Some of the lessons for women in relationships:

Take time out for yourself and throw away your "to do" list for an entire weekend.
Stop caring so much about the mundane and start to live the dream.
Turn off the computer and jump back into life.
Develop your own interests and cultivate independent friendships.
Create a room that is your own space, even if you have to sleep alone on occasion.

L.J. McMillan believes you can be happy without a man in your life and at the rate at which men are becoming unromantic, she might just be right. L.J. McMillan is a successful power attorney who has raised children and has many of her own interests and hobbies. How does she find complete happiness without a male companion? This book reveals the secrets of her happiness and is not about dealing with men, making men happy, putting up with male quirks and fears, or even about getting over a man. Simply, this book is about the joys of being independent and fulfilled without a man.

Do you want to run your own life?
Could you take a vacation by yourself and enjoy the solitude?
Are you really complete if you don't feel complete without a mate?
How do you prevent the destabilizing effects of negative energy?
How do you deal with a married optimist and why falling into this type of relationship can be hugely abusing to your self-esteem. (Although, after she discusses this, she goes on to discuss sex with single men or men from your past relationships, yikes. Why would this be any less damaging to your self-esteem?)

The last section of the book has a summary of each chapter for quick reference.

Whether you are married, in a relationship or single, this book can help you rediscover your identity. Single parenting and finding a dream job is also discussed. I really liked her idea about the search for "male energy" and how women may actually be looking for this energy and have mistakenly decided to pursue romance. What we really might be looking for is male energy or a close male friend who actually listens to us and has real conversations that inspire us and heal our hearts.

~TheRebeccaReview.com


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Summary: It's Not About Men
Review: What a great book! I found it to be a very straightforward and enjoyable to read guide for how to live a more full and happy life in general, not just for single women. Many of the practical and creative suggestions within could be useful for all women. After reading this book, I felt like I had a new understanding about my role in creating the kind of life that I want for myself, simply by making conscious choices and prioritizing how I direct my time and energy. This book addresses many of the critical challenges facing women in these times, and offers positive and sound solutions and options. Highly recommended.

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Summary: It's not about men
Review: What a great service this new author did for all women. The sections on Community and Sports really gave me some great ideas. They are my favorites.

This is an engaging and informative book that covers many interesting aspects of being a single woman. Additionally the author gave the readers a summary of each chapter with a few gems at the end of each. Talk about respect for her reader's precious time.

Great read. I am pleased to review it.