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10 Commandments Of Dating

10 Commandments Of Dating

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Rating: 5 stars
Summary: Finally, a non-insulting Christian 'dating' book for all!
Review: I've read my share of 'dating' books, most of the time after a relationship has ended in flames (this time was no exception). I've also read a number of 'Christian' advice books about dating, most of which range from the banal (sex is for marriage) to the ridiculous (don't show physical affection ever!), without preaching. I picked this book up in a spate of post-relationship depression and quickly it helped me to identify many of my frequent mistakes.It mentions God, but it doesn't limit the expression 'don't be unevenly yoked' to 'don't date non-Christians'; it includes things along the lines of 'don't be a Mother Theresa in your relationship'. It also identifies one of the mistakes of relationships as being, if you can believe it, 'praying together'--correctly identifying the stupid over-spiritualization of honest to goodness human infatuation that I've seen too often in relationships. (And have been guilty of.)

I read it cover to cover in one sitting at the bookstore. (And wished I had read it *before* I wasted my most recent relationship.) It is also 'worldly' enough to allow me to feel that I can recommend it to any of my friends (Christian or non-Christian).

Rating: 5 stars
Summary: Reality Bites in Relationships and Romance! Read On!
Review: If you want the real truth about relationships and enjoy a good laugh at yourself, then read The Ten Commandments of Dating. It is the practical, hard hitting truth that you need to hear to actually use your brain in matters of the heart. I found myself laughing at the absurd things people do in relationships, then realized I had done most of them...repeatedly! It is a light-hearted look at our serious mistakes that cause us the most pain in relationships. If you listen to Ben Young's radio show, The Single Connection, you will find his same great humor mixed with the hard hitting truth. You won't be disappointed!

Rating: 5 stars
Summary: Humorous yet practical advice to live by.
Review: Reading this book is a pleasure, as well as a learning experience. I have ordered several copies to send to my daughter at college, and she tells me they are in great demand.

Rating: 5 stars
Summary: Solid, time-tested dating advice...
Review: The Bible doesn't specifically say much about how to "date" in the modern sense
but it does
give boundaries and guidelines for how to select someone and how to build a relationship that, once blessed, will last.
This book is great.

Commandments like... "Thou Shalt Get a Life" and
"Thou Shalt Not Play House" really emphasize how God's intention for a relationship to begin is totally opposite of what the secular community believes is ok. Getting a life, developing your own character before marriage and not co-habitating before the wedding day are really examples of how God's plan for marriage takes time to build and the "world's" way is rushed and focuses on instant gratification. This book will challenge you to examine your own dating relationships and how you can improve them by going God's way and not the self directed path which almost always fizzles out. Pick it up!!

Rating: 5 stars
Summary: Highest marks for 10 Commandments
Review: The book was good in many respects. For me the 10th "commandment" was the most useful part. The book as a whole has some very good (but usually common sense) information, and usually uses statistics semi-fairly.

But, I also have a few problems with the book.

1. It strongly preaches (actually "commands") that there should be no sex before marriage. For instance it advises those who live together before marriage to "stop having sex and move out." And, it further states "these laws are not recommendations or suggestions." While I have no problem with an individual deciding that sex should be withheld until the appropriate time (including waiting until after marriage), I disagree with strict universal rules.

2. The book repeatedly refers to the need for chemistry, but then doesn't comment on how their rules can keep the chemistry alive and avoid having the dating relationship become a friendship lacking in chemistry. Chemistry and physical intimacy (not necessarily sex) are requirements in a dating relationship. But, lack of physical intimacy really requires additional feedback of attraction, feelings, etc. Physical intimacy is a form of communication that must be replaced if omitted from a relationship.

3. The book perpetuates the stereotypes that men want sex and women don't, that women want marriage and men don't, and (my personal favorite myth) that men will "lose respect" for a woman if she "gives in" to his sexual appetite. Despite common belief, the sexual revolution is still quite alive (safe sex PLEASE) and many women love sex while many men yearn to be married.

Overall: The book does have some good food for thought. But, it will be most useful for people to use as a shield against sex in a relationship: "See, the book agrees with me." Not a bad reason to buy the book if it agrees with your personal philosophy.

Rating: 3 stars
Summary: Some good content = subterfuge of preaching morality
Review: The book was good in many respects. For me the 10th "commandment" was the most useful part. The book as a whole has some very good (but usually common sense) information, and usually uses statistics semi-fairly.

But, I also have a few problems with the book.

1. It strongly preaches (actually "commands") that there should be no sex before marriage. For instance it advises those who live together before marriage to "stop having sex and move out." And, it further states "these laws are not recommendations or suggestions." While I have no problem with an individual deciding that sex should be withheld until the appropriate time (including waiting until after marriage), I disagree with strict universal rules.

2. The book repeatedly refers to the need for chemistry, but then doesn't comment on how their rules can keep the chemistry alive and avoid having the dating relationship become a friendship lacking in chemistry. Chemistry and physical intimacy (not necessarily sex) are requirements in a dating relationship. But, lack of physical intimacy really requires additional feedback of attraction, feelings, etc. Physical intimacy is a form of communication that must be replaced if omitted from a relationship.

3. The book perpetuates the stereotypes that men want sex and women don't, that women want marriage and men don't, and (my personal favorite myth) that men will "lose respect" for a woman if she "gives in" to his sexual appetite. Despite common belief, the sexual revolution is still quite alive (safe sex PLEASE) and many women love sex while many men yearn to be married.

Overall: The book does have some good food for thought. But, it will be most useful for people to use as a shield against sex in a relationship: "See, the book agrees with me." Not a bad reason to buy the book if it agrees with your personal philosophy.

Rating: 5 stars
Summary: Awesome Guide to Dating - Told in our vernacular!
Review: This book is dating told from a Christian perspective, but it is good for anyone! I recommended it to my roommates, and they loved it too! If more people dated using these guidelines, there would definately be more healthy relationships out there! Its easy to read....if you don't like to read, don't worry. Its told using illustrative stories that bring it all home! Buy it and you won't regret it!

Rating: 5 stars
Summary: Straight to the point and easily accessible.
Review: This book was really helpful in understanding some key points in a rocky relationship. I recommend this book to anyone, especially young adults in need of some sound relationship advice.

Rating: 5 stars
Summary: Good advice on dating from a Christian point of view
Review: This was the first book that I read on dating from a Christian perspective that actually gave good advice from a biblical standpoint. I agree with letting the other person know where you stand, setting your boundaries up front, using discernment and common sense, and having a life of your own and being a whole person and not expecting the other person to fulfill you or make you happy. Great book, I only regret finding this book way past the years that I initially started dating...(would have saved myself a lot of heartache, headaches, and wasting time.) This book would be good for all church-going Christians confused about how to approach dating based on a biblical foundation especially nowadays where the act of "courting" seems to be a dying art. Unfortunately some Christians fall into that trap of mimicking the world when it comes to relationships, in which most unbelievers expect to "get some" after the third or fourth date. Dating from a biblical aspect should be discussed more in churches, and especially taught more in the home by the parents.

Rating: 5 stars
Summary: FINALLY a book on dating
Review: What a great book. I minister to college students. Right now, I am taking my students through a study based on this book. The first week I had a spring-breaker accidentally show up not knowing the theme of what we were doing. She has commited to drive 45 minutes every week to come to this study. This material has been convicting, and I've never had so much fun on the discussion of dating. It's making a difference in my students' perspective on dating. And I cannot stress enough, IT IS ABSOLUTELY FUN.


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