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Summary: Excellent book with an unfortunate title
Review: This is a well researched and well written book on the complicated dance that couples go through in the early stages of getting to know each other and on some of the things that go wrong so they never do get to know each other. Humorous anecdotes illustrate important points to remember. With a different title it would be easier to carry around and easier to recommend to others--even so it is well worth the time to read it...and reread it...and reread it.
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Summary: Insightful and Entertaining
Review: The book is loaded with practical techniques, with numerous examples both from real life and from scientific experiments. The bottom line is - the techniques work.
Even though the book is geared toward making people fall in love - the bottom line is that it is about establishing rapport with people you'd like to have around, so many of the techniques can be used by anyone in daily life to establish and maintain harmonious relationships. After all, letting know someone that you appreciate them and letting them know what you genuinely like about them, will help in any relationship - amorous or professional.
There are degrees of bonding you may want to have with different people and it's up to you how deep a bond you desire to develop with someone. It is also useful to know what we do that gets people hooked and attached, so that we don't do it with people we don't want to chase us. Sometimes people unconsciously do the "right" thing with those they don't want, and the "wrong" thing with those they do want - so it's good to be conscious of the effects of one's behavior and influence upon others.
An entire section of this book deals with - oh, I prefer to call it "a balance of energy exange" rather than what seems to be a popular phrase, "one's market value". It is an important issue, not just for attracting someone into your life, but also for maintaining harmonious relationship on a long-term basis - again whether the relationship is amorous or professional. The successful long-term relationships are based on mutual contribution to the relationship - the qualities and "assets" each person brings into a relationship may be different, but they will have to balance out in some way.
The book does have some lovely techniques for developing deep level or rapport and intimacy fast, by using one's verbal and non-verbal language to shift gears from "I" and "you" into "we".
The material covered in this book is not all-encompassing, though. You can learn much more from the field of Neuro-Linguistic Programming.
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Summary: It's A Game
Review: I thought this was an interesting book and it makes a good point - dating and "falling in love" are just games, like on catch27.com. But that's a little depressing at the same time. It disturbs me to think that rather than "falling in love" with someone naturally based on personality and attraction, people can be manipulated into "falling in love" based on certain actions that cause chemical reactions. So it's hard for me to rate this book...it makes good points that are likely true, but I don't like what those points ultimately add up to: love isn't what you think it is.
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Summary: Helpful! Enlightening, esp the part on love making
Review: I had read a few books about courtship or heterogenous love, but not one solely on making love or having sex. I dont mean this book belongs to the later group. However, on top of the useful but common techniques (separate for hunter and hunteress), the last few chapters devoted to making love and having sex really makes it outstanding above the rest. The table which the author used to tell the contrast (and thus differences on what men and women think about good sex) between female porn and male porn is hilarious but true (to the detriment of my self esteem). However, the most important message for me rests on the author's suggestion to read romance novels published by Harlequin. The few pages 247-251 (that 5 pages worth the price of the whole book) of a partial story the author used to elaborate (in a choregraphy format) the perfect setup to turn on a woman and drive her crazy really brought me to a level far beyond my previous reach. I tried it the day after I completed this book and the effect was so amazing.
In short, a must read. I am sure that this book will open a new horizon for many "common male" like me.
p.s. In order to avoid any bad impression that I or the book is sheerly sex related, below please find some of my favorite techniques mentioned in the book.
No. 33 Employ Empathizers: Dust your discussion with phrases like "I see what you mean." "Yes, you were right." "I can related to that," and the all time favorite, "I understand."
No. 59 "How do you feel about that?": Whatever she is discussing, simply ask that. Go ahead, force yourself.
No. 65 "Tell me about it.": Beg her to tell you about it. Then listen - like a woman listens. It makes you a more loving man in your Quarry's eyes.
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Summary: Awesome love guide!
Review: Just bought this book and loved it.Forget the men are from mars type books this is what you need.This book is for men and women.Great advice.Now I know why we fall in love.(...)
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Summary: Not so flaky...
Review: As you might think. Rather a play it safe or maybe play it real book. Is this a sell out of our dreams? I dunno... Having been in relationships where the balance is grossly unequal and felt the peace of looking at someone I knew was the same as me... Just maybe I agree with the author. An interesting & thought provoking book.
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Summary: Don't fall for it!
Review: If you buy this book -- as I did -- then you deserve the lesson that I learned. Some people just aren't going to fall in love with you, just as you aren't going to fall in love with everyone.If you learn that lesson and learn to be comfortable with it, you'll save yourself a lot of heartache. Don't try to make that one special person fall for you. That person may not really be all that you image him or her to be. However, some of the lessons in this book will make you a more lovable person, and will increase your chances of finding an attractive human to fall in love with you.
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