How to Succeed With Women

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Summary: The Gold Standard of the industry
Review: A couple years ago I went through a period where I bought 10-15 books of this type. I followed Amazon's "you may also like..." suggestions and just bought everything.

How To Succeed With Women was clearly the most important book of the lot. This book speaks the truth, and it changed my life.

The other books I also bought served as nice fillers around the edges, but this is the one.

It is a bit on the long winded side, but I found that helpful in helping the information sink in. This was all the stuff I never learned as a kid, it's like a basic owners manual for human sexuality. There is no denying it, it works, I am transformed.

Before this book, I was passive and nervous around women. I was always waiting for them to make the first move and was convinced they didn't like me until I saw otherwise. I didn't know how to make those first moves and was clumsy. After this book, I am the master of my world, I make all the rules and date a lot of fantastic women on my terms, and that, by the way, is what women want (except the "a lot" part, but they just have to accept it or move on).

All the women I date know that I date a lot. They know they're not the only one and my "moves" are transparent. It doesn't matter, they love me anyway. Women aren't dumb, you're not fooling them. It is a relief to them to finally find a man who knows what to do. This book will show you what they are waiting for, and they will reward you for it.

As for the bad reviews I've seen before mine, I'm surprised. Those people I would guess either weren't ready to change their poor habits, or weren't smart enough to adapt the lessons to their individual situations (which you must do, there are no absolutes and the authors point this out, you have to use your own sense of humor, instinct, and guts).

About the bit about saying "hi" a lot. That works. It may seem silly, but it trained me to change the way I saw the world. There really are great women surrounding you every day and you can learn a lot about yourself and them by just randomly saying "hi" to women on the street. Try it.

This book pre-dates the popularity of online dating, perhaps I'll write that book. :) But the same principles apply. You must approach 30-50 women or more to find the 2-3 (not 1!) who are going to warm to you. Accept that. Don't ever get hung up on just one woman. That will kill you.

The reviewer who said something about other guys "looking like fools"... I'm not sure what he's talking about, maybe the idea that you get them gifts and treat them nicely. What he probably didn't see was what happened later that or another night. Remember, you are not out to please other men and their opinions of you, you are out to please yourself.

I only wish I had this book when I was 12. Dads, buy it for your sons. Sons, buy it for your divorced Dads who never knew what to teach you. Uncles, buy it for your nephews, etc.

It works. This is the one.

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Summary: look for the deeper meaning
Review: I have shared this book with many of my friends, and we all arrived at the same conclusion: it has a deeper meaning, deeper than just learning to get women. It stresses throughout its text a message that cannot be stressed enough to the younger generation of men today--you must have a life of your own and be passionate about something that you regularly do, from which you derive confidence, satisfaction and validation--after that, the chips will fall into place, and with the techniques of the book, the women will come. It places great importance on having many guy friends, being proactive and making life, in general, work for you. So the essense, or moral of this story is, to get a life that you, yourself appreciate, that provides much of its own validation--absent of women. Once women notice that you live a great life without them, you will naturally be something of an opiate or enigma, which they will desire much more. On the other hand, without gaining the essense of this book, and placing all primacy on getting women as means to making life happy and worth living, will only lend to more failure--even with all the world's self-help techniques.

The book lacks in terms of its description--that is, in how to execute the very thoughtful and logical techniques it promotes. It will explain when to call, when not to ask out, etc., all without describing very fully how to. Hopefully these very capable authors have finally filled that gap with the release of the "sequel" "How to Talk to Women."

Finally, this book is not for men who can be considered delicate and sensitive--it forces upon them the demand to re-evaluate themselves as a whole, and this is usually too much of a challenge when all they want to hear is "just be yourself." It is more involved than that.

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Summary: A must have book
Review: For a person who is from a country where dating is rare this book is a must to understand and to successfully date and understand woman. Reading this book helped me find my girlfriend and be with her happily uptill now . I really want to thank the authors for writing this book.

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Summary: Sound advice - but lacking in ways to meet women.
Review: This book offers an unbelievable amount of information on how to succeed with women and goes into great detail doing so. At times, too much detail. But, if you have the time to read it, it's worth it. The only thing I found lacking in this book is that it gave very little information as far as ideas on where, when and how to actually go about meeting or picking up women. Steve Pell, author of, "Over 200 Proven Ways and Places to PICK UP GIRLS By an Average-Looking Guy."

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Summary: Fast Food, but not-so-bad tidbits of advice...
Review: I do agree with the previous review about this being fast food mentally; but just like fast food, I believe there was some nutritional value to the book. Sure, I agree that you should work on improving yourself first - and this book advises the same. You need to have some passion in your life other than picking up women, or else you won't have much substance. This book is a good start. It helps to build confidence with approaching women and has a good premise "date lots of women until the right one comes along - that way, when the right one finally comes along, you'll be able to charm her better than when you were once uncomfortable with women." Although the book condones sleeping with multiple women and keeping someone on the side, I don't necessarily agree with this - but I think that most of the principles are sound.

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Summary: Fast Food Mentality
Review: I came across this book while searching for books on numerical methods in engineering; the author's name was similar. The title caught my eye and brought back forgotten memories of 20 years ago, so I read the example pages and spent a few minutes reading many of the reviews.

I'm writing to sincere, awkward-feeling guys looking at this book. I can symphathize with you because I once bought and read a book like this 20 years ago when I was lonely, poor, uneducated, skinny, and unconfident. Looking back, that book didn't really do much to help me. However, I can say that now I'm: happily married (10 yrs+) to a teen beauty queen (she's in her 30's now) from a multi-millionaire family, have 2 kids, moderately well-off financially, PhD in engineering, 6' 3" 245 lb muscled physique, and happy about life. The key is that the first two came only after latter four were accomplished!

More useful than these types of books were some ancedotes regarding women told to me by my grandmother and by my father. I remember mentioning my nervousness regarding girls I liked, to which my grandmother somewhat laughingly replied, "You have a sister you talk with all the time, don't you? Girls you date aren't much different than her." I remember in high school complaining to my father about how girls were only interested in guys with fast cars, and money, and were great atheletes. He (who had a PhD in Biology) said, "That's how the world works; a girl is looking -- even if unconsciously -- for a situation to successfully raise her children (even those children yet to be born). So why wouldn't she look for money, strength, and looks? Female birds select the male with the best territory and with the best coloring. The doe looks for the buck with the best antler rack and physical stength who will best be able to fend off wolves. And so on..." That set me on a mission lasting about 10 years in which I didn't do that much dating, but simply improved myself.

How to Succeed With Women? Go spend 5+ years and be successful in something you passionately love, get in good health and physical shape, practice conservative finances (see Dave Ramsey's book "Financial Peace" or similar), and you'll create an attitude and lifestyle (ie, the male bird's superior territory) which will ATTRACT the best women, and more than you'll want.

The "fast food, I-want-it-now without-any-work" philosophy is destroying America. Go improve yourself and do the work that will make you attractive to a fine women and forget the "lines" and "attitude" that only make you look like a croaking bullfrog.

-- From an older guy ...

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Summary: Good as a technical manual, but not so much as practical
Review: I just got the book last week, and I am on page 139, chapter five, so far I found all the advice to be mostly common sence with some explanations on why it works.

The book basicaly portrays seduction as a probability game, try to look your best, walk up to all women you see and try talking to them, four in a hundread will be interested or attracted by you and you may sleep with one of those 4.

They keep saying they will give you the recipe for success and that "we will tell you how to succeed later", but I have read about 30% of the book and nothing seems to be a revelation and the promises of good stuff to come have not yet been fulfiled, if you only have money for one book on seduction, and one book only, dont get this book, seems to be good only as complement of other books, or if you want to know about datting theory and come up with your own stuff to meet women, the advice is not that good, the gimmicks they give you are stuff larry laffer (from the leisure suit larry game series by sierra) would come up with.

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Summary: Good material, but must stick to game plan
Review: This is a good book that gives you a good fundamental basis on what to do from first meeting women through the dating procees. After reading this book I used many of the techniques to score several phone numbers. Some of these led to dates and so on. I learned not to let any failures and rejections bother me. Some people expect everything to work every time, but that is not what the authors said. Keep following the basics of the techniques and you will improve your ability to use them successfully. It takes practice !! that is an underlying concept that is a must if you want any chance at being successfull. When everything comes together and it works, there is no sweeter feeling. Go get em guys!!!!

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Summary: Great book
Review: Excellent step-by-step instructions for those of us who can admit to not knowing everything about women.

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Summary: Didnt get the book yet but after reading reviews, definitely
Review: Though I haven't even picked up the book yet, all of the extreme contrasting opinions are enough to convince me to get it and see what it's all about. It's amazing how much I've learned about the book through these reviews before I even picked up a copy. The only book I have read on the topic thus far is "The Guide" by John Colt & Nicholas Adams. It is an excellent, funny, and useful read, and I highly recommend it. However, it sort of leaves you off at the point where you get the girl's number (seems as though I can get a number in my sleep but things generally go awry from that point forward), so I'm looking for some more reading material to cover the rest.

This book appears to be the equivalent of "The Rules" for girls. Since I haven't read that either and cannot speak to its content with quotes and excerpts, I understand it to be a female's handbook for manipulating guys.

Most of these anonymous 1 and 2 star reviews filled with spiteful comments I can only assume came from females who took offense to its seemingly subversive approach to getting women. Moreover, I found it quite ironic that an alarming number of these people fully acknowleged the fact that money was either #1 or #2 on their list of criteria for evaluating a prospective mate and took offense to the book identifying them as "gold diggers". This makes sense as no one really likes to have their character deficiencies brought to light. (Blame it on "biological needs" all you like.) I'm not saying all girls are this way; I have several female friends who don't seek out rich guys, but let's just say it's not a deal-breaker either if they happen to meet a great guy who makes 6 figures. That said, if this book outlines and illustrates some successful - even clandestine approaches - to baiting and hooking a chick, godspeed my good men.