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Summary: Every woman should read this book!
Review: Being the only female in a business partnership of 5, I needed some help in understanding the rules! Very insightful reading - several times I said, "Aha, that's what was going on!"
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Summary: Excellent!
Review: Great job! The information contained in this book will be put to use immediately in my every day dealings with men. Thank you so much Adrienne!
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Summary: Generally useful but slightly out of date
Review: Psychologist Mendell does a credible job in emphasizing the differences between how men interact with each other and how women interact. Her basic premise is that men view everything as a game, with set rules, with winners and losers, but do not take things personally. Women, on the other hand, are more interested in relationship building and concerned about other people's feelings rather than the scorecard. Since business is usually run by men, in order to succeed you must play by men's rules. Based on my observations over 25 years, I'd say that her theory was definitely true 20-25 years ago, when men were mostly in charge in the workplace, and the women were mostly secretaries and clerks. Back then, men did not even fill out their own timecards, but had their secretaries do it. Secretaries answered phone calls from the men's wives, and filled out grocery lists for them. The workplace was definitely more military like, with a lot of retired military men up the ranks. Women were definitely outside the norm, and a smart woman engineer was looked on with much suspicion and ridicule. However as technology advanced, voice mail and word processing systems took over the roles of secretaries, and men had to actually learn to type (gasp), and women became more confident and moved up the ranks, the business culture has changed to be more collaborative, emphasizing teamwork, interpersonal relationships, 360 degree assessments, and cross-functional horizontal teaming relationships. Suddenly, relationships mattered, whether between supplier and customer, employee and manager, engineering and marketing. Even the executives want to seem approachable, friendly and caring. So I don't see as much the harrassment of women, putdowns, feminizing, scare tactics and hostility as I did 20 years ago. Are the rules still tilted towards men's style? Yes, but not as much as Mendell suggests. Today, a lot of the collaborative behavior attributed to women is valued in the organization. While it is true that men still hold most of the top positions, and take most of the credit, the types of men that excel are not the old-line militaristic linebacker types, but ones that have figured out how to be diplomatic, concerned, and effective without resorting to caveman techniques.
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Summary: Generally useful but slightly out of date
Review: Psychologist Mendell does a credible job in emphasizing the differences between how men interact with each other and how women interact. Her basic premise is that men view everything as a game, with set rules, with winners and losers, but do not take things personally. Women, on the other hand, are more interested in relationship building and concerned about other people's feelings rather than the scorecard. Since business is usually run by men, in order to succeed you must play by men's rules. Based on my observations over 25 years, I'd say that her theory was definitely true 20-25 years ago, when men were mostly in charge in the workplace, and the women were mostly secretaries and clerks. Back then, men did not even fill out their own timecards, but had their secretaries do it. Secretaries answered phone calls from the men's wives, and filled out grocery lists for them. The workplace was definitely more military like, with a lot of retired military men up the ranks. Women were definitely outside the norm, and a smart woman engineer was looked on with much suspicion and ridicule. However as technology advanced, voice mail and word processing systems took over the roles of secretaries, and men had to actually learn to type (gasp), and women became more confident and moved up the ranks, the business culture has changed to be more collaborative, emphasizing teamwork, interpersonal relationships, 360 degree assessments, and cross-functional horizontal teaming relationships. Suddenly, relationships mattered, whether between supplier and customer, employee and manager, engineering and marketing. Even the executives want to seem approachable, friendly and caring. So I don't see as much the harrassment of women, putdowns, feminizing, scare tactics and hostility as I did 20 years ago. Are the rules still tilted towards men's style? Yes, but not as much as Mendell suggests. Today, a lot of the collaborative behavior attributed to women is valued in the organization. While it is true that men still hold most of the top positions, and take most of the credit, the types of men that excel are not the old-line militaristic linebacker types, but ones that have figured out how to be diplomatic, concerned, and effective without resorting to caveman techniques.
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Summary: Women You Have to Read This
Review: This is perhaps the best book I have ever read about the inteaction between women and men in the workplace. When you read this book its like the light bulb has come on! Finally, a book that gives women the rules men play by.
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Summary: learning to be competive is the key....
Review: Throughout my life,I have noticed how women hold back when the vibes of competition are in the air, they have been taught to believe they cannot withstand the emotional and physical requirements needed for this expression of assertiveness..take heart,,this book can help you,especially if you have thought you had to be a 'female impersonator" all your life,you don't,use the masculine energy within to achieve goals and don't be afraid that someone may be thinking your too strong,,because you're never too strong.Women have been taught that they lack assertiveness but this is not true,it has been merely taught and can be untaught. It does give you room to be yourself,some women as myself,find that the male way of thinking comes naturally and also fierce singlemindedness, others may want to be more feminine in their approach but it depends on the individual. Some women DO get away with very male behavior such as ranting and raving at an employee,some don't,hard to explain yet I've seen it.Some will be respected for it and some will br called a #itch for some myterious reason..but being strong is definetly worth a try even if you shock some people a bit.Sometimes people HAVE to be shocked in order to change societal sterotypes, sometimes it takes alot of shock for change,there fore,if a woman shows that demominate edge... so be it.
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Summary: Become Fluent in "Guy"
Review: Unless you already are more successful than you ever wanted or dreamed of being, this is a MUST book for any woman, whether rookie or veteran, whose business life involves regular interaction with men. As a woman who believes herself to be relatively fluent in "guy", I found this book to be extremely helpful in confirming many of my hunches about the "appropriate" behavior in particular work situations and explaining other reactions and actions of my male colleagues and opponents that I sometimes found puzzling before. Once you understand the WHY behind what men do, responding to it and mirroring it become much easier which in turn uncomplicates my life. After reading this book and implementing what I learned in the next relevant work decision (which meant acting somewhat different than I would have previously), I was able to finally take control rather quietly over a relationship with a male colleague that had been a source of friction and general unpleasantness for some time and direct it into a more productive path for both of us.
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Summary: An essential book for any woman who works with men.
Review: You really need to read this book to believe it, it gives an enmours insight into the men's mind and the work enviornment he has created.
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