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Summary: Good but...
Review: A friend recommended this to me after an excruciating break up. "She" was my one and only, or so I thought. This book covers many areas of bad relationships. I myself had fallen deeply in love with a married woman, and I just knew we'd get it together. We didn't. This book helped me recognize that she wasn't leaving him. And so I was all over the place. This book held my irrational fears up for what they were, irrational. However, it begs you to examine your relationship with your parents. While my parents weren't perfect, I don't feel like they were as big a responsibility as the book suggests. Also, be careful, this book might make you confront fears and reality, and many aren't prepared for that path. But overall, if you're suffering, read this. You'll take away positives.
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Summary: Moderately interesting
Review: Books need more examples to support its premise
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Summary: A Keeper to read again & again
Review: I first devoured this book about 9 years ago & it saved my life, literally! I could not leave a very sick abusive man, even though I was terrified of him, even when he degraded me, even when it made my hate myself & feel disgusted at my seeming powerlessness to leave. This book SAVED my LIFE! I was able to break my lifelong patterns of choosing women haters, violent batterers, charming seductive snakes whose only goal was to drive me insane & break me in pieces emotionally until I had NO self-worth, self-respect, NO SELF at all left. Why do we stay hooked in harmful relationships? It's not always physically abusive, sometimes they are emotionally & verbally abusive to the point that you no longer know what is real. You want so badly to believe the lies & excuses, hold onto the hope that your lover will change if you just love them enough, I know he really loves me, she/he's just having a bad day, etc. If you've ever been in any type of relationship that you knew or suspected was harmful but STILL could NOT leave, you know the shattering pain of addiction to a person. This book tells one how they became addicted & why, how to recognize a bad relationship, how to deal with the power & guilt trips your partner uses to keep you hooked, that jealousy & possessiveness do NOT mean love, how to get through the breakup without going back, & how to break this pattern for good! I could have gone through years of expensive therapy & still not received the exact help or understanding that I needed to set myself free from addictive relationships. I just bought a new copy of the book--it is timeless, worth much more than the cover price of...(therapy could cost thousands, take years & have less results). I recommend getting at least 2 because you won't want to share & we always know at least one person trapped in addictive relationships. You're worth it, right? :-)
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Summary: Moderately interesting
Review: I guess I was hoping to read something to make me immediately feel better, but there is no such thing. A lot of this book was devoted to personal stories of other people I don't know and I could not relate to their particular circumstances. I was hoping more for tips and exercises that I could use myself every day. It was interesting that the author boils down your "insecurity" or "obsessiveness" to how you were raised as a child and your relationship as a child with your parents. I don't agree in my case- my parents treated me fine. Maybe this is worth a read, but it wasn't the book for me.
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Summary: This is a life saver!
Review: I recommend this book for anyone who is stuck in a bad relationship and want to get out! This book made me see how I wasn't facing the truth and it was staring right at me! It made me realize that I was worth something and didn't deserve to be treated the way I had been. It helps you evaluate the situation that you are in, and gives you the tools to know whether it is time to move on or stay and fight for your relationship. After reading this book, I gained the confidence and self-respect to say "no more!" I've never felt better about myself! Please, if you feel the same, buy this book. You won't regret it!
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Summary: ***AUTHOR REVIEW***
Review: This book captures the true pain of what so many folks go through when addicted to another. I highly recommend.
John D. Moore
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Author of Confusing Love with Obsession
When You Can't Stop Controlling Your Partner & the Relationship
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Summary: Was so suprised!
Review: This book was very helpful to me. I think to women in general who find themselves drawn to men who are, lets just say - way less than perfect, on a regular basis would benefit from reading this book. It helps you recognize what you are doing and why you keep doing it over and over again. Also, if you purchased this book, chances are that you or someone you know is in an unhealthy relationship but feel a little trapped. In my case - alot trapped....... and I am now ready to make steps to end my current dead end relationship once and for all. The fear of leaving can be dealt with much better than the pain that keeps me staying around. In my case, it is my boyfriend who is seperated from his wife - kids are involved - and it is difficult for him to make the divorce move. Whatever!! It has been over a year and I am just about fed up. I have found since reading this book the most logical sense that eluded me from the beginning. I wasn't using my brain, but let my emotions take over - where I thought there was love was only a desire for certain needs to be met - now that I recognize this - I can move on in a more peaceful fashion. Content AND liberated. I highly recommend this book and for the price - well, you just can't beat it.
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Summary: Excellent Book
Review: This book will answer all of your questions concerning love versus addiction. I read this book twice and highlighted so many areas in the book that I could relate to. I bought so many self-help books but this one is by far the best.
I highly recommend this book to anyone who is unsure of their relationship. I was in a very unhealthy relationship for the past 7 1/2 years. I read the book and decided enough was enough.
I am no longer in the relationship. I'm not saying that it's easy but when I find myself missing him or wondering if I did the right thing, I read the parts that I highlighted in the book and know that I did the right thing by letting go.
There was nothing that I was able to do any different to save this relationship.I realized that he was the one with the problem and there was nothing that I could do about it.
Had I stayed for the sake of not being lonely, in the long run, I only would've been miserable and wasted another 7 1/2 years. And to not be lonely is not a good reason to stay in an unhealthy relationship or any relationship.
I'm only sorry it took me this long to find out but on the flip side at least I did found out and can finally move on.
If you find yourself wondering about your relationship, please get this book. It could be just what you're looking for.
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