How One of You Can Bring the Two of You Together

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Summary: For One Who Wants to Be a Better Soul Mate
Review: Honestly, I was reading this book when I had my first heart break. I was in search for answers, in search for the truth and resolution. If you happen to experience a heart break, reading this book can possibly have two outcomes to you:

1. It might create an illusion as that you can do things to bring your partner back.

NOTE: At that point, you just have to make sure your partner/ex-partner wants to work with you. Remember, your partner/ex-partner, too, has a choice. He/she might not be making the wisest choice but they have a right to choose what they want in life too. Coming to learn how to respect your partner/ex-partner¡¦s choice of leaving is a challenge. I¡¦d say this. If your partner/ex-partner is determined to leave, shut himself/herself down regardless, that love was probably not meant to be. It is then we need to take good care of our own emotions and have the desire to heal than getting yourself hurt by trying numerous things with that partner/ex-partner suggested in the book.

2. You can learn from your past mistakes and this book will prepare you to become a better soul mate.

NOTE: Susan Page taught me many things I did not know when I was in that previous long-term relationship. She taught me the importance to view relationship problems in a different way, a way that is positive which is extremely tough when you have fights/differences with your partner. She taught me the importance of showing appreciation and taking care of myself as an individual while one is in a relationship. The book also taught me the importance in communicating expectations and needs than expecting the other party to just know. Most importantly, I think a successful relationship is about two individuals who are self-reliant and content about lives join together. That is what makes relationships beautiful and grateful.

I wish I would have read this book in my previous relationship. However, without the heart break, I guess I would not have been in search for answers, the truth and to have the desire to be a better person and a better soul mate. This book is truly recommended for people who are in relationships and people who fall out of relationships but want to learn from the past mistakes. Enjoy reading!


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Summary: Lots to think about here...
Review: I am a man, and this review is for other men. I'm going to figure that you are looking for a book on relationships because you are having problems with your own relationship. As a man, you are probably goal oriented and practical - you have a problem, you are looking for solutions, and maybe a book will help. There are lots of books out there - which to pick? Susan Page's book is valuable, and I do recommend it. There is quite a lot of useful information here, and lots to think about. Expect to spend some time with this book. She takes a highly behavioral approach - you are asked to first believe that your relationship will work, and to act loving toward your partner. If you change your beliefs and behaviors, she maintains, then you will see your relationship flourish and the feelings between you and your partner will grow. If your orientation is different - for example, if you believe that it's more important to search for and heal the underlying childhood wounds that cause you to think, feel, and behave in the ways you do - then you may not be happy with this book. My advice to you, however, is that you NOT read this book first. I'm not convinced that there is one book out there that will give you everything you need to know to "fix" things, or at least I haven't found it. I have a thick skull, and it has taken reading several things for these ideas to start to penetrate. I think you will have an easier time understanding and accepting what Susan Page is saying if you read a few other things first. Here are some other books you might wish to search for also: (1) "Communication Miracles for Couples," by Jonathan Robinson - this book is very short and accessible, and you will find some of the same ideas. After you start to understand some of this stuff, I think you will have an easier time working through Susan Page's book, which is much more detailed. (2)If you are heterosexual, I think you may find it helpful to read something about the differences between men and women. You don't have to buy into all of it, but the girls probably do think differently than us, and it will get you thinking. So consider John Gray's "Men are from Mars, Women are from Venus." Along a similar vein, and an absolute bargain at only about $5, is the book "Light Her Fire" by Ellen Kreidman, which is extremely practical. Happy reading, and good luck!

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Summary: This book changed my life.
Review: Really. Page is a voice of sanity! Her advice, tips, and rationale for changing one's own behavior and attitude to improve relationships is great. And, she frames changes in the context of getting what you want out of relationships, which provides tremendous motivation for making them. I feel like it puts me in control of creating a win-win situation. This has the uncanny effect of feeding my ego while I'm learning to let go of it (and being right) at the same time. It's an exquisite balance. And, the quality of my intimate relationship has improved, as advertized. I hope she's making a lot of money, because it's priceless information.

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Summary: Helpful insight for the affection-starved partner but...
Review: This book had a lot of good ideas and ways to bring together two people with just one person doing it. The problem I found with this is that it made me frustrated at times because I was hurt by my partner and I felt like I had to do all the work myself trying to bring us closer and salvaging our relationship. I didn't do anything wrong! However, this book works for people that want to stay together and want to go further if BOTH partners are willing. My relationship, on the other hand, is in a state of ambivalence and so the strategies in this book didn't quite work too well for us due to unresolved issues.

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Summary: Empowering
Review: When you really look at them, most advice books for couples spend most of their pages telling you how much YOU contribute to the issues and problems in your relationship. Page's title comes right out and says what the titles of other "couples" books don't: Improvement starts with YOU!! Inside the book, she immediately starts giving you practical ways of improving your relationship. Her "experiments" are useful and effective. Also, it's written in a clear and accessible style. This book empowers you with the skills you need to improve any relationship, so anyone would find this book useful.

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Summary: Empowering
Review: Wow. This book is great. It's completely changed my attitude towards my relationship and my boyfriend. I read a lot of books by Richard Carlson, Wayne Dyer and Deepak Chopra, and this book ties together principles from all of them and focuses on relationships, something a little underdeveloped in the other books. I've learned to appreciate the fun that we have, instead of letting only the rough spots color my feelings towards our relationship. I've learned that most men (my boyfriend is definitely part of this group) appreciate stability and togetherness in a relationship more than romantic gestures and outright statements of affection, and that women (me included) sometimes get so hung up on the romantic declarations that we forget to appreciate what we do enjoy about having someone to love. This book is very practical, very actionable. It's not just theories and philosophies, it applies everything to your relationship. I'd recommend it to anyone whose relationship is suffering from a case of the blahs or feels like their partner doesn't do his/her part of the maintenance a relationship requires.