Infidelity: A Survival Guide

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Summary: a book and its cover
Review: I have been searching for book on this subject for a loved one going through the extremely painful first stages of facing the infidelity of her mate. This book came highly recommended, so I ordered it for her, and indeed, its content is the most useful, practical and straightforward I have seen. I was unable, however, to give her this book because of the cover, which features the title in small print over a large photo of a sign that reads "motel." I'm sorry, but am I being too sensitive here? My friend is fresh off discovering her mate's long-term affair, conducted mostly at a motel near his office. How exactly is she to stop replaying the whole mess over and over again in her head when the book that is supposed to be helping her reminds her of the scene of her perceived humiliation every time she looks at it??? This is just plain dumb. I'm sure the book's cover designer was trying to go in a different direction than the covers of books on this subject that are as boring and clinical as an aspirin commercial. But geez, have a little class and empathy, will you? Too late now, of course.

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Summary: I am a survivor
Review: This book is a must read for anyone experiencing infidelity. It is truly a survival guide. Dr. Lusterman provides the tools needed to get through the emotions, the ambivilence and confusion that come with infidelity. He does this in an extremely thoughtful, honest and straightforward way. Until I read this book, I thought my marriage was doomed. I would have never believed that infidelity would actually serve as a turning point to a stronger, more intimate relationship with my husband. No matter what the circumstances, there is a lot of thoughtful wisdom in this book. I would also recommend this book to therapists who are treating couples dealing with infidelity. Tell your clients about it. It is a great resource.

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Summary: A lifeline in a time of drowning.....
Review: This book is amazing. I went through this with my husband last year and the book was the only thing that made sense. People try to help you and offer you comfort in a time like this but rarely can someone or something tap RIGHT into what you are feeling. This is what this book does. When this happens, you are so confused and lost and have so many questions. This book helps anwser them and prepares you for confronting the problem and hopefully moving past it. It also offers a lot of hope in such a dim time. For someone going through this, I offer three suggestions: 1) BUY THIS BOOK! 2) Get yourself in personal counseling and 3) If and when your spouse is willing-get both of you into marraige counseling. I wish you the best if you are going through this but please-read this book. It is like a having a light in a dark cave. After counseling and praying and making decisions, I am happy to say my husband and I survived infidelity. We are now enjoying each other and loving each other on a whole new level. Take care.

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Summary: Infidelity: A Survival Guide
Review: This book really helped me. After recieving it, I found that I could not put it down, and read it quicker than any other book I've picked up. It really helped me to step back from my situation and look at our relationship in a more matter-of-fact way, and to understand my spouses infidelity with a clearer head. The book has also provided me with some insights regarding myself that I have brought to my therapist's attention. My husband is reading it now, and we plan to discuss it after he is done. I think it has been a terrific tool for us to use in rebuilding our broken bond.

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Summary: this book saved my life...
Review: This book saved my sanity and has given me back my confidence and self esteem. As I read it, I felt as if I could have written it. It is very balanced and easy to read without a lot of psycho-babble. I also liked it because it is written for both the "involved" partner and the "discovering" partner. I recommend this as the first book any partner should read when faced with this incredibly painful situation. I am still in the very beginning stages of recovery but this book helped restore my sense of hope in the future, whatever the outcome.

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Summary: this book saved my life...
Review: This book was more helpful than any other that I read. As hard as this subject is to deal with, Don-David is able to take one to a place of realization and healing if there is a chance for that.