Healing Your Aloneness : Finding Love and Wholeness Through Your Inner Child

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Summary: Very important information
Review: First of all, I'd like to state that I am not prone to enjoy self-help books. Many self-help authors seem to do little more than blow sugar up your behind. In other words they tell you what you want to hear - that you don't have to work hard to get rich, that you can lose weight by eating according to your blood type, that you can "think yourself rich". They create a feeling of euphoria which makes you want to buy more of their books! Even the ones with good information present it poorly most of the time or miss the point altogether. It has left me with a prejudice of distrust for self-help authors!

Healing Your Aloneness is different in every sense. For those of us who feel in some way "broken", it provides crucial information in compassionate and realistic terms. No false promises or extraneous packaging here. Reading this book I never felt like the authors had any motive other than to share something they have worked so hard to understand themselves. Clearly, they are not out to simply make a buck.

When did you become an adult? When you turned 18 or 21, was adulthood suddenly bestowed upon you? Of course not. Your adult self began to develop in the experiences of your early childhood and through the rest of your life. You had an adult aspect as a child, just as you have a child aspect to you now. What Healing Your Aloneness does is very clearly illustrate how your experiences in childhood formed the beliefs and tendencies which make you the person you are today. And just as you had a childhood relationship with your parents, your inner child has a relationship with your inner adult. Chances are, whatever part of you may be "broken", the key to fixing it is in that relationship. Healing Your Aloneness helps you to identify and understand both the child and adult parts of you so that you can heal the relationship between them.

I count the information in this book is among the most important I have ever come across. It is presented compassionately, lovingly, and sometimes even humorously, but it is never sugar-coated. The authors never promise an easy cure. Rather, they help you to develop the tools which you will need to heal yourself when you are ready to do the work.

About my only criticisms of the book, and they are minor, are the title and one other aspect of the presentation. I don't think the title does the book justice - for all of my problems, I wouldn't have listed "aloneness" among them. I am in a loving relationship, I am blessed with great friends, and I also love my alone-time. The information in this book was extremely relevant to me, but not the title. As for the other aspect of presentation, occasionally I felt like this book was written more for women. Please note that this in no way diminishes the value of the information within for my fellow males, but it was written by two wonderful women, so female readers will probably relate to it more easily. Again, this is nothing that should prevent you from benefitting immensely from their book.

That's it. I am going to take this opportunity to thank Margaret and Erika for writing such a beautiful and helpful book. The lessons I am learning from it I will cherish and build upon for the rest of my life.

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Summary: One of those books that changed my life--still changing!
Review: I bought this book 2 years ago. I wasn't able to absorb everything in this book at the time, because I was in a nervous breakdown. Now I've been in therapy and on medication for 2 years, and I'm stable. I picked it up and started reading just 2 weeks ago again, I'm reading it everyday, highlighting and highlighting all the good insights, and everytime when I open up the book just started reading something I've already read, I still get new insights about the healing process. I highly recommend this book!

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Summary: Very Important
Review: It does not take psychology to tell us that we all have within us a child. However, it may take psychological work to show us that we are profuse and insistant at shutting this child out.

We are repulsively repressive creatures. I did not take the suggestions of this book and apply any of them. I just read it. And, sure enough my life is slowly going through the motions discussed in this book.

Do not expect this or any one book to help you through your lifes troubles. What you read is what you need to hear for now. Your life will show you what you need to do, and you cannot rush or speed your way through the many recoveries you might need. If you have a sincere lack of fulfillment, if you keep repeating the same mistakes, if your life seems to keep going nowhere. You may very well have to clean house.

This book may show you what you have been doing to yourself all these years. I am a firm believer that this entire planet is peopled with broken hearts..many of us live the lie that we are fine, when in fact our heart was broken years ago and we have yet to acknowledge it, let alone heal it.

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Summary: I learned to communicate with my daughter and love my self
Review: Review

I read "Healing Your Aloneness" because my daughter asked me to. She felt it would help me understand the type of therapy she was involed in and give us a common language that might improve the quality of the communication between us. I am so very glad I followed my daughter's lead.

This book taught me the Inner Bonding process in such a beautiful way, with moving stories from the lives of some of the authors'clients. It helped me see that, in responding to my daughter's

wounded Inner Child, I was in "Intent to Protect" my ego instead of "Intent to Learn" about my daughter's pain.

I thought I was helping to heal the gap between us by the things I said to my daughter. But what I learned from the non-judgemental way the authors helped others understand how a "Loving Adult" relates to a wounded "Inner Child" showed me why she stayed distant.

Now, when my daughter talks about her wounded Inner Child, I have the awareness and the tools to let her know I hear her heart. We are not home yet, but the gap is closing. My daughter now knows that she can trust that I love her, that I will "hang in there" with the healing process and that, if she lets me know what her Inner Child needs, I will try my very best to provide it.

"Healing Your Aloneness" gave me another gift. It helped me get in touch with and listen to my own Inner Child. He is seven. His name is "Billy," He, too, has wounds that have not healed. He, too, is angry at me for not listening to him, for not being there. I am continuing to bond with him from my "Loving Adult." He is so bright,so wise, so needy, so capable of joy. I love that little boy and he too is beginning to trust that I do.

I am grateful that the authors have put the Inner Bonding process in a book that is such a joy to read. Reading it has not only helped me have the loving relationship I so wanted with my daughter, it has helped me to love myself.

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Summary: I learned to communicate with my daughter and love my self
Review: Review

I read "Healing Your Aloneness" because my daughter asked me to. She felt it would help me understand the type of therapy she was involed in and give us a common language that might improve the quality of the communication between us. I am so very glad I followed my daughter's lead.

This book taught me the Inner Bonding process in such a beautiful way, with moving stories from the lives of some of the authors'clients. It helped me see that, in responding to my daughter's

wounded Inner Child, I was in "Intent to Protect" my ego instead of "Intent to Learn" about my daughter's pain.

I thought I was helping to heal the gap between us by the things I said to my daughter. But what I learned from the non-judgemental way the authors helped others understand how a "Loving Adult" relates to a wounded "Inner Child" showed me why she stayed distant.

Now, when my daughter talks about her wounded Inner Child, I have the awareness and the tools to let her know I hear her heart. We are not home yet, but the gap is closing. My daughter now knows that she can trust that I love her, that I will "hang in there" with the healing process and that, if she lets me know what her Inner Child needs, I will try my very best to provide it.

"Healing Your Aloneness" gave me another gift. It helped me get in touch with and listen to my own Inner Child. He is seven. His name is "Billy," He, too, has wounds that have not healed. He, too, is angry at me for not listening to him, for not being there. I am continuing to bond with him from my "Loving Adult." He is so bright,so wise, so needy, so capable of joy. I love that little boy and he too is beginning to trust that I do.

I am grateful that the authors have put the Inner Bonding process in a book that is such a joy to read. Reading it has not only helped me have the loving relationship I so wanted with my daughter, it has helped me to love myself.