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Summary: Wonderful Reading if You Don't Want to Stay Single...
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I've always read lots of books about singles and how to find a mate, and that rate has sped up since I'm now a Romance Coach. But somehow I had missed Susan Page's "If I'm So Wonderful, Why am I Still Single?" even though it has been out since 1998, the last year I was single myself. Where have I been, and why hadn't I seen this book?
Susan Page writes for "involuntary singles" -- straight, gay, male or female, each and every one of us who is single and wishes we weren't. Relentlessly positive, she starts off right to the point with "So why are you still single anyway?" And then, just when we've gotten over that shock, she states flatly:"Whatever your reasons are for being single, if you want to be in a relationship, no reason is good enough." Then Page goes about tearing apart every good reason we've ever come up with to keep ourselves single.
Here's what Page takes on and turns around: Ambivalence (my favorite), those "Dreadful Statistics," the myth of "There are no good ways to meet people," and having and keeping high standards. Then she works on developing skills in what she calls "Frog kissing": Learning to say no, how to recognize true intimacy, avoiding "commitmentphobes," handling the intimacy gap, and learning to say "yes." And in the last section, "Keeping It All Together While You Look," Page tells you just how to do all that.
This is easily the best, most thorough, rounded and positive book about relationships and dating I have seen. If you are one of Page's "involuntary singles," this book needs to be in your library. Five chocolate dipped strawberries for Susan Page! This is quite a book.
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Summary: This Book Really Did Change My Life Life Forever
Review: After being devastatingly dumped by a guy I thought was "the one," I picked up Susan Page's book. It totally changed the way I looked at dating and relationships. I realized I had been settling for alot less in men than I wanted and alot less than I deserved. I read and reread the book, and became more focused on what qualities I was looking for in a man. I got up the courage to join a dating service and I stuck to the principals in Susan Page's book. After dating for a year, I met a wonderful man that I've happily shared my life with now for five years. Frankly, it wasn't "love at first sight" and because of Ms. Page's book, I quickly recognized that this man had all the qualities I was looking for. I gave it a shot and am glad I did! We have been married for two years and I look forward to our future together. Aside from the practical relationship advice, I also like the spiritual undercurrent of the book.
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Summary: A break-through book
Review: Despite a title that makes you want to cover the book in brown paper, I found this book to be one of the most insightful on the subject. It helped me clarify what I'm looking for in a mate and has helped me avoid "Better-Than-Nothing" relationships. I highly recommend it for the recently divorced, as it will help them understand why they married as they did. The subject of hidden ambivalence was the most insightful. Now that I've resolved my own ambivalence, I can usually identify it in others. I especially found the straightforward and pragmatic approach to dating to be results-producing. If every single person read this book, we'd have more well-suited marriages!
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Summary: A bit inaccurate in places
Review: I bought this book in 1990 and it changed my life.It proves that we should make as much effort into finding someone to love as we do when buying our favourite car or choosing a career."Better than nothing" relationships are not a consideration for me,quality is.I thoroughly recommend this book to every man and woman who wants to take their love life serious and look for quality in their love life.You study to further your career,why not your love life too.This book is the key to your future.
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Summary: This Book Really Did Change My Life Life Forever
Review: I read Susan Page's book 12 years ago. It helped me getting out of a dead-end relationship - I found the exercises very helpful and it made me realise that should the man I was "madly" in love with propose to me, I would have turned him down. The most interesting thing I want to mention is that I am European and I had read other American books on the subject. Each time I found them not applicable within European culture, which is not the case for Susan's book. Oh yes... forgot the most important: I went about meeting a prospective husband in a very systematical way, and this year, we will celebrate our tenth anniversary. Thanks, Susan !!!
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Summary: I found my husband after reading this book...
Review: I would have never found and married my husband if I had not read this book. Being then 29 and ready to find a husband, my friend gave it to me as a joke- but it made a serious difference in the way I viewed myself, my wants and needs, and my love life. Instead of dating a bunch of great looking dumb jerks, I found a guy that shared common values and competencies with me, but wasn't my usual tall, dark and handsome- and guess what?? We fell madly in love and after dating for two years, we married in April of 2003. This book will change your life if you are serious about making a life-long commitment to "Mr. Right!" (or Ms. Right!) Keep an open mind and get ready to learn a lot about yourself, too!!
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Summary: I found my husband after reading this book...
Review: I would have never found and married my husband if I had not read this book. Being then 29 and ready to find a husband, my friend gave it to me as a joke- but it made a serious difference in the way I viewed myself, my wants and needs, and my love life. Instead of dating a bunch of great looking dumb jerks, I found a guy that shared common values and competencies with me, but wasn't my usual tall, dark and handsome- and guess what?? We fell madly in love and after dating for two years, we married in April of 2003. This book will change your life if you are serious about making a life-long commitment to "Mr. Right!" (or Ms. Right!) Keep an open mind and get ready to learn a lot about yourself, too!!
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Summary: A bit inaccurate in places
Review: There was some insightful information in the book and, if purely used for the 'how to find a mate' program (i.e get out there, date many, dump anyone that's a dead-end quickly), it probably works. She does have some inaccuracies in the book, though. For example, she talks about STDs, but only actually mentions AIDs (as if it was the only life-changing one). She implies that using a condom will prevent all STDs, but some of the worst STDs are not stopped by condoms! For another example, she seems to believe that the only reason a woman will stay with a loser is an 'easy to stay in' attitude, but studies have shown that when women have sex, they release a hormone called oxytocin. This makes women feel extra warm and fuzzy for their sex partners. Thus, a woman gets very attached to her sexual partner very quickly (more attached than circumstances otherwise warrant), making it difficult to realize they are in dead-end romances and then to leave them. Finally, though this probably doesn't matter for most of her readers, this books comes from a very secular view-point. Personally, I get my self-esteem from knowing God thinking I'm beautiful and loves me. Therefore I wonder if her secular approach to increasing self-esteem really works.
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Summary: Insighful
Review: This book contains some questions that enable the reader to seriously see how the content affects them personally. The theme of the book could be summarized in two sentences:
Become clear about what you want.
Persevere toward your goal. She says that in most cases the prerequisite for finding love is an "unequivocal desire." That emphasizes the primary theme of the book, i.e., decide what you really want. She gives relief to perfectionists, saying, "The whole notion of 'getting your act together' is just postponing life. Getting your act together is life." Charts and graphs are used to visually get his points across throughout the book. They are quite helpful. This is an encouraging book, one that has practical advice on how to follow through with your goal of finding the right person with whom you'd like to be in a relationship.
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Summary: Good Book - Way Too Long- Good 4 Women- Men Look Elsewhere!
Review: This book leads you through some examples and exercises that if you really take the time to consider, could change your life. Its not a lot of mumbo jumbo saying the same thing, over and over again, just a different way. It makes YOU do the work examining your choices and your preferences. I recommend to many women AND men that arent getting what they want out of relationships.
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