I'm Grieving As Fast As I Can: How Young Widows and Widowers Can Cope and Heal

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Summary: Glimmer of hope in my darkest hour
Review: This book is a Godsend. I'm 27 and my fiance, Mike died 7 months ago in his sleep of natural causes. Losing him has devestated me and changed everything in my world, forcing me to face things I never thought I would. This book is incredible and the author made me feel like she wrote this just for me. It has helped me understand how and way I am feeling the way I am and validating those feelings when you feel like no one could possibly understand. Thank you for this book!! I love you forever, Mike and will always miss you....

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Summary: worth reading
Review: This book was the best thing that I ever bought. My partner was murdered in an anti-gay hate crime. I was 27 and he was 30. Read it cover to cover at least 7 times immediately following the murder and then used it as a reference book throughout the 5 year trial. It was great as it was written with the focus on the young widow, most books are targeted more for elderly folks. It has a great section called "It matters how the person died" with a homocide section which was spot on to the feelings that I was experiencing. I was also worried that I would need to "translate" through a hetrosexual taxonomy and bias, but I was pleasantly surprized. This type of experience is incredibly painful, gay or straight, and the entire book was written sensitively so that it would work for both audiences. There also is a nice section on "loss of a lover" which was most helpful to me. It covered loosing a lover or fiancee. If you or someone you know is dealing with loss this book can be a life-saver.