How to Attract Asian Women

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Summary: Absolutely Appalled
Review: As if there isn't enough crap out there, some Asian women decided to sell out and write a piece of garbage like this. I admit that I didn't read this book; I found out about it through a blog in AngryAsianMan.com, but the title itself is enough to disgust me. I don't know whether she is perpetuating or challenging stereotypes of Asian women, since I have not read the book, but she is making the situation of race relations in this country worse by writing a book like this.

The fact of the matter is that any relationship where you are attracted to a person simply because of their race/ethnicity is not going to work. Sure, you should understand the cultural background of the person you are dating, but that is not the only thing about the person. The bottom line is that women and men want to be treated like an individual. I, for example, am sick and tired of non-Asian (mostly white) men interested in me because I am this "exotic beauty" to them. Any Asian woman who accepts that type of relationship either really needs to survive or has some serious self-esteem issues.

I thought about buying this book for comic value, but it is not worth supporting this disgrace to other Asian women. What's worse is that I can't believe she was going to teach a class at the "Learning Annex" in New York about this. If I had the contact info of Ming Tan, I would curse her out. Any male idiot who takes a book like this seriously, shouldn't be breeding.

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Summary: This book shoulr be called "How to date Asian-American Women
Review: Having lived and worked in Asia for 15 years, China, Hong Kong and Singapore, I can tell you there is no secret to meeting women here. Any idiot with even a minor ability to listen and understand how people interact with one another is different here from the US will get by just fine as far as meeting women - better so than in the US! That said, Asian-American women, in my epxerience, are totally, totally different. Most of them are more Westernized than Asian, so interacting with them the way you would any other American woman usually works fine, in my experience. I also wonder what the author means by "Asian." The continent contains many nationalities (Chinese, Japanese, Korean, Thai, Indonesian, Malay, etc) each as different from one another as Westerners are from them. An patronizing book at best, a dumb white man's guide at worst.

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Summary: Ridiculous
Review: I am an asian guy - filipino, actually - and i've been around asian women of various ethnicities all my life: friends, classmates, co-workers, and acquaintances. As I looked through this book at a local bookstore, I couldn't help but laugh at what was written in it. This book is as reliable a source of info as the tabloid newspapers you see while waiting in line at any grocery store. You don't need to follow this book's advice to be successful with asian women.

And besides, what every asian women looks for in a man isn't at all that different from what a women of ANY race looks for in a man...and that is a guy with a nice thick wallet! You don't need to buy this book...it's totally off the mark!

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Summary: I can't f***ing fight 'em off.
Review: I can't BELIEVE it!!! This book is abso-f***ing-lutely amazing. I can barely catch my breathe. I read this book about 5 days ago, in one sitting, then tried to implement it's strategy for getting some sweet lemon cream pie. Within 4 minutes I had an unforgettable "encounter" with a gorgeous 40 year old Thai bank manager. I left my home to deposit some money in my checking account when I saw this fabulously attractive woman working at the local TCF bank branch. I never knew Asian women found a Caucasian man's left ear SO arousing. I concentrated all my effort to wriggle my ear (see technique # 7 on page 165). The result: she came up to me as I was waiting in line saying that there was something I needed to see in her office (I didn't even have to tell her my name). Needless to say, within 3 minutes, I emerged from her office with a signed contract wherein she promised me a yacht, 3 8 X 10 glossies of her in a bikini, the names of a family I could send support money to on the island of Koh Pan Gan, and unfettered access to her womb. Needless to say, I am writing this review with a throng of Asian women rocking my trailer home as they pound on the front door to gain entry and ravage this "Vanilla Goat" (their sweet term of endearment for me). I wish I never read this book, but I mean that in a good way.

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Summary: Works too well
Review: I followed this book's tips, and could not believe my success. Within minutes of finishing it, there was quite literally a crowd of Asian women surrounding me (it was at the mall; it's not like they broke into my house).

But then my problems started. I was not aware of this, but being "Asian" is just the beginning--apparently there are different "flavors" over there (I am not sure if this is the correct term; I don't wish to offend anyone). And some do not like others. For instance, the "Koreens" (spelling?) have something against the Chinese (I thought this was just a kind of food, but apparently it is also used in other senses), and the ladies soon were fighting with each other--so much that they forgot about me! So if you use this book, I recommend doing so in some place like New Hampshire or Canada where there are not so many types of people, because otherwise they might fight and that's not cool.

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Summary: Excellent- helped me a lot!
Review: I just had to get this book because it is so unique. I don't believe any author has ever written a topic on how to approach Asian women. I couldn't put this book down as I read page after page of things I didn't know about Asian women. I especially liked how the author has laid everything out for you and make things to do seem so easy, step by step on how to approach Asian women, how to answer an Asian woman's personals ad, how to act on a first date, how to impress her family (very important!) and other important issues. I especially liked the quotes by the Asian women in the book. Very interesting and educational!

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Summary: I'm gonna find out
Review: I read this book and it is GREAT! I'm sure that I can succeed with Asian women now. I'm going to find out if that sideways thing is true.

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Summary: A Basic Primer on Dating Asian Women
Review: Imagine a bar or coffee house in San Francisco frequented only by Asian women. One of the girls starts up a conversation about how, the other day, a white guy approached her and initiated contact by asking her if she speaks English. They all erupt into a cacophony of high-pitched screeches, laughter and angry mutterings. One of the women is seated in front of a computer with Internet access and she is pulling up US Census data and other descriptive statistics on each related topic, as it emerges, in order to lend an air of scientific validity to their personal experiences. Further imagine that someone is recording the entire discussion, along with all the descriptive statistics that were gleaned off the Internet together with the personal stories that were shared that evening. Transcribe the entire recording into a manuscript and you have Ming Tan's "How To Attract Asian Women: An Asian Woman Reveals it ALL."

This book is not without merit, especially if you, like me, knew relatively nothing about Asian culture and Confucian philosophy prior to reading it. For example, did you know that Asian people are offended when Caucasians refer to them as "Orientals?" According to Miss Tan, "Asians are people and Orientals are rugs." Having had no prior experience with Asians or Asian-Americans, I was not aware of that particular faux pas and I did find that type of information, as well as a few other scattered tidbits, very useful. However, if you grew up with Asian-Americans, have worked with them or have some prior knowledge of Asian cultures, then this "How-To" manual will not provide you with enough information to justify your investment of money and time. (I asked a 44 year old friend of mine if she had known about the sensitivity of Asians to the term "Orientals." She stated yes but only because she recently had occasion to work with an Asian who was forever correcting other staff members when they used the wrong term).

Here is a summary of Miss Tan's findings based on a not-so-scientific sampling of her website's participants who completed a variety of surveys.

Asian women, according to Miss Tan, are physically attracted to two broad types of Caucasian men; tall, sandy-haired, blue-eyed men of Irish or English descent and swarthy, muscular men of Mediterranean descent (Italians are mentioned specifically several times throughout her thesis). Asian women are hard-working and pragmatic people and are far better educated than their American counterparts and, consequently, are attracted to and seek out men with the same characteristics. One piece of information I found particularly useful and interesting pertained to how Asian women are attracted to men with advanced degrees from Ivy League Schools (this is specifically mentioned more than a couple of times; a by-product, perhaps, of a caste system that still strongly prevails in China). Miss Tan's advice is that potential male suitors should boldly advertise their credentials in their Internet dating profiles especially if their source of income is derived from the following sources; Doctor, Lawyer, Engineer, Architect, Business Owner, Computer Expert, Military Officer and "old," family money. It would never have occurred to me to advertise the name of my Alma Matta as this would most definitely be considered arrogant by most Caucasian women.

The rest of the advice, particularly in regard to how to treat Asian women, I found to be entirely intuitive and, at times, insulting to the reader. Several pages, having little or nothing to do with Asian women per se, are devoted to the importance of bathing and brushing one's teeth before the date, paying for the first date (while not expecting sex in return, being generally kind and generous and showing deferential respect to the woman's family. It is hard to imagine that any grown, mature and intelligent man would require such advice. Apparently, Miss Tan and her girlfriends have encountered more than their fair share of unkempt jerks and boorish men. This "book" should have been published as a pamphlet or, better yet, as an e-book at a fraction of the price.

For $...the book "Chinese Business Etiquette: A Guide to Protocol, Manners and Culture in the People's Republic of China" by Scott D. Seligman (New York: Warner Books, Inc. 1999. ISBN 0-446-67387-0) is an excellent, far more intelligent, better written and informative discussion of Chinese culture and etiquette than Miss Tan's, occasionally sophomoric and overpriced, guide to Asian dating Do's-and-Don'ts.

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Summary: This book shoulr be called "How to date Asian-American Women
Review: Isnt the book actually an insult to asian women ... but hell what do I care if Ming Tan doesn't ...

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Summary: Excellent!
Review: LOVED THIS BOOK! LOTS of info about Asian culture and women! Read it!

Some men think to think women like "bad boys". This is because they do not respect women and think treating women badly will help them score with more women. To the person who thinks this is more Cosmo type bs: THERE IS A REASON WHY COSMO IS THE NUMBER ONE MAGAZINE FOR WOMEN!!! Cosmo publishes in all Asian languages! Women want to be treated with respect. Just because you treated some women nicely and they were not interested does not mean women want men who do not pay for dinner and other signs of civilization. If you know Asian culture, you would know that this book is very accurate.

Also to that Canadian guy who thinks this book is about "Upscale New York". The book referrs to US DOLLARS, NOT CANADIAN salaries. Plus, people in the US pay for their medicine, as we are not so fortunate to have socialized medicine.

And to the guy who tells people to get a life: Get a grammar and spell check! If you can't write, don't criticize.