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Summary: "Not Much Happens Until 2 People Are Attracted to Each Other
Review: "Not much happens in an intimate relationship until two people are first attracted to each other," says Hogan. How true! Think about it. Would you even want to be around that special person in your life, if you were not attracted to them? And what about them makes them attractive to you? Have you even thought about it?Then, Hogan asks, "Are YOU irresistible?" We are all so caught up in how others are attractive to us, that we can forget about the other half of the equation: ourselves! How do I take what I have and make it into something more, something magnetic? That's what this book answers for us. And the answer is going to be different for everyone, but this book gives tons of credible advice that will work for most of us. Fascinating: the evolutionary information inserted in chapter two such as why taller men are more attractive to women. The facts are presented in an easy to read, sometimes humorous fashion. A lot of authors take themselves way too serious, not Hogan. This book is fun and informative. The chapter about body language was probably the most eye-opening stuff I've read in a long time. How close is too close to stand? What about eye contact? Gestures? How do I spot discomfort? What can I do to make them feel more comfortable? Who thinks about this stuff? Well, we all should, obviously, and our dates would go much smoother! Hogan's reminder about positive expression is a great tip. How many times have you been on a date, and ended up being that person's shoulder to cry on? And you just met them fifteen minutes ago?? This is not just a book about how to have a great date. The authors delve into how to determine long-term needs, wants, desires, values. They help you ward off disaster with many how-not-to tips. This book is great for anyone not in a relationship who wants to be, AND great for anyone in a relationship who wants to remain attractive to their mate, and maybe even become more attractive to them!
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Summary: Insightful
Review: Few books summarize years and years of psychological research into relationship as well as this one. Both easy to read and filled with wonderful examples, you'll have a rough time putting this book down. In fact, once I finished reading it, I picked it up again and started reading through once more, highlighting all the great parts. On my top 5 psych/influence/sales books of all time.
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Summary: Ah simplicity
Review: Have you ever got that feeling when you read something - yes, I know! or I knew that, I just needed it brought to my attention! This book will do that for you. The simple things that you can do to make yourself more attractive to others are not always so obvious. This book delves more deeply, also, in other areas - such as body language and even communication styles.
At times, we all need to be reminded of the things we can improve. This is a helpful guidebook, easy to read, easy to see ourselves in the examples. You will be glad you picked up this book.
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Summary: Not worth $20
Review: I agree with some of the earlier reviewers that this book might be useful for a 15-year-old, but for this 32-year-old it was largely a waste of time.
First the positives: the book has some interesting information in the early chapters about body language. I thought the discussions of eye contact and pupil dilation, smiling, where to sit in relation to the person you're trying to attract, mirroring, and so forth were quite useful. Also, the sections on the pitfalls of coversation and on how to redirect conversation back to the other person really rang true for me. So basically, the first half or so is worth reading, but unfortunately, you can't buy just the first half.
At least half of the book is filled with inane and even potentially harmful advice. For example, in the section on physical appearance the authors advise that you be neat and clean. No kidding! They also provide sample pick-up lines and conversation starters that are so lame they would never work except on the most stupid or desperate of people. (For example, they suggest using the standard "have we met somewhere before" line.)
Another problem that I had with the book is its totally conventional view of relationships and what is attractive. Much of the advice is based on very old-fashioned gender stereotypes, and the intended audience is exclusively white, heterosexual, and middle-class. No one who is the least bit outside the mainstream in appearance, lifestyle, or point of view is included in this book. Even wearing glasses is seen as a problem that needs to be fixed.
The book is also choppy and badly written. It is riddled with grammar and spelling errors and malapropisms and jumps from one idea to the next without clear transitions. In one paragraph the authors might be talking about sexual love relationships and in the next they're talking about business relationships.
Which brings me to my final complaint about the book: the lack of focus. Although most of the book is about love relationships, the authors stick in bits about other types of relationships as well without making clear distinctions. There needed to be separate sections on how to make oneself irresistible in a nonsexual way. Further, the last few chapters of the book move out of the realm of attraction and into advice on how to maintain committed relationships and marriage. There's nothing wrong with this topic, but it needs a book all its own and doesn't really fit with what the book is ostensibly about.
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Summary: Fun, exciting and useful
Review: I didn't know if I would like this book or not when I first saw it. I didn't want to read a book that was a Cosmo-get 'em in bed book. This was a pleasant surprise. Since Irresistible Attraction, I've read other books by Kevin Hogan but this remains my favorite for a lot of reasons. Every page is filled with fun, respect for women, lots of well researched information about relationships and sometimes a tongue in cheek atttitude that is very fun! Hogan and LaBay share fascinating research about body language and non-verbal communication. I learned so much about body language I feel I could be a commentator on television. Some of the more interesting facts I discovered included: 1)When meeting someone you are likely to start off on the right foot if you keep that person to your right side. The research behind this was truly amazing and once you learn this, you wonder why no one ever figured it out before.
2) The first impression really is important and in fact you should try to make a great impression on everyone you meet.
3) People with different colored eyes expect to be looked at in different ways and for different lengths of time.
4) People should dress themselves with colors that match their eyes for a great impression.
5) Men and women's body weight influences how people perceive their personality. I thought people would like you for who they are and they do but people assign better characteristics to you if you are thinner!
6) Women are deeper and more complex beings than men! (I knew that all the time.)
7) Physical appearance is far more important to men than women.
8) Clothing styles help you state who you are and helps other people see you for what you are stating.
9) In the first few seconds of meeting someone, everything matters alot and carries over into the relationship.
10) First impressions are difficult to change.
11) There are lots of specific cues and clues that makes us more and less attractive to others. This book is like a Bible for making it easy for people to love you. I also agree with the other reviewers that sometimes the book veers off of the interpersonal dimension into the business dimension, but even that works. This book is fun, exciting and really useful!
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Summary: Not Quite Seduction. Lots of Body Language Info.
Review: I thought this book was better than Hogan's, The Psychology of Persuasion.
Even though the book is about relationships and dating (though not quite seduction though he comes close at times), I'm using this book for selling.
The book is heavy on body language and how to make a great impression. That alone was worth the price of admission. The book reads very quickly and even though there is an awful lot of scientific research discussed, it's not enough to get you bogged down.
This is a fun read and a book to keep on the shelf for a long time to come.
DT
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Summary: Irresistable Attraction goes from attraction to relationship
Review: Irresistible Attraction is a book about attraction done correctly.
The book starts off (or should I say, the author starts off) poking fun at himself, revealing what we all believed to be true but never were sure....that men think about sex, most of the time...maybe all the time...and women actually have interests beyond this!
Then we are taken on an easy to understand tour deforce of what men and women find attractive in each other based on research from various studies all around the world and evolutionary psychology.
Next up, and, what I found to be the most interesting part of the book were the chapters about body language.
The very notion that you can enhance and improve how people feel about you simply by how and where you sit, how and when you gesture, and amazingly simple things that aren't all as intuitive as you might think, was truly fascinating. These three chapters made the book for me.
I was even more surprised to see such a detailed and thoughtful account of just how to build and safeguard a long term relationship. It really didn't need to be in the book, because the book IS about attraction but I thought it was really helpful.
I'm young and maybe sometime soon, I will be able to use that chapter!!!
Irresistible Attraction is a really well written book, it blends well what I've learned in college with real life experience and I can't help but give it five stars.
(Hint: Every guy should read this book BEFORE they call the girl.)
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Summary: Best book ever on developing charisma
Review: Look, I am the original skeptic when it comes to self-help books. But this book won me over because: it's written by a PhD, so it's NOT lightweight, it's fun and interesting, and most of all, it's illuminating about first impressions, attraction, chemistry, body language, etc. If I'd paid more attention to books like this during my last relationship, our break-up would not have happened; in fact, I'd still have that guy wrapped around my little finger. As it is, I used much of the info in this book to RELAX, learn how to make eye contact and how to show a man I'm interested via body language--and one month after my break-up, I am seeing a great guy who can't get enough of me. And that's a good thing: My broken heart is slowly mending. And most of all, I'm actually having FUN.
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Summary: Best book ever on developing charisma
Review: The other reviwers here feel that this is a great book. Indeed, I feel that it is a good book, but not a great one. Not even very good. I do plan on keeping my copy. This book actually deserves 3 1/2 stars IMO, but I gave it only 3 because others have already singed the praises of this book. Here is the problem that I have with this book, and in fact other books of this genre. The techniques here aren't powerful enough for lots of the more challenging situations. This example is all to common. You're standing, talking with someone who doesn't seem all that impressed with you. That person could be, say, someone you're really attracted to or perhaps an employer. Well, what do you do now? That person is In Demand. She knows already that you want something from her, and she already knows that you're a nice person. OK. Now how do you gain control of the interaction and impress upon her that you're someone worth respecting? You're nervous, trying your best to come across as a confident person with self-mastery just as the book says you should be, but you're not exactly sure how to do this. What do you do now--compliment her? Umm, well, the last compliment you gave her just made her smile politely and then roll her eyes. We're losing altitude fast, Captain. You need to do something to really command her attention, fast. What now? Here the book falls short, at least it seems that way to me. My point of this is that there are times when we need to come across that we genuinely like the person we're talking to, and there are times that we need to come across to someone skeptical that we are someone worth respecting. This book is great at giving you pointers to make the other person feel liked, not so great at giving you pointers on how to command respect. You will, however, get to read about the turn-ons (described in the first few chapters) that will make you more attractive and that will help you command respect. These do give a person to strive for. Next, you will get some really pointers on how to handle some arguments or give advice to someone who might be resistant. Also, the eye-contact trick is pretty cool. Still, it is nice to read these and to be reminded. Also, it is great advice given to end a date/interaction yourself when things are going well. I just wish that there were more points like these in the book. To sum it up, it is a good book that handles some situations, SOME situations, very well. But I would say that I'm mildly disappointed. Both authors have experience in NLP and hypnotherapy (and I'm sure, very charismatic and effective people), so I guess I was expecting something more cutting-edge and powerful than this.
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