Breaking Free from Boomerang Love: Getting Unhooked from Borderline Personality Disorder Relationships

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Summary: A must for those healing from a BPD relationship
Review: In her book Boomerang Love, Ms. Melville shares her insight and experience in surviving the insanity of a Borderline relationship. As I read her book I felt as though I was reading a journal of my chaotic marriage with my BPD wife; except I was reading Ms. Melville's words. Her shared experiences and life lessons served as great validation in gaining an understanding that I was not alone in my experiences with dealing with a loved one with this all consuming disorder. Ms. Melville's book belongs in every therapists office and every Non's book collection, as it provides a rare insight into the life of a person in the difficult position of recovering from the abuse sustained in a Borderline relationship. I would highly recommend this book to all friends and family members of someone diagnosed or suspected to have Borderline Peronality Disorder.

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Summary: Breaking Free
Review: Lynn Melville's heart-centered, yet ever so direct, accounting of her personal journey helped to lift the dark and dreary clouds off of my own relationship with someone suffering from borderline personality disorder. Though my relationship was long ago, the devastation left following the storm had left me numb to life for quite a number of years.

More often than not, when Lynn expressed her "feelings" in Boomerang Love, I remembered that I had once "felt" that way. When she expressed her "thoughts", I realized that I once thought that way also. When she "voiced" her own painful experiences, I again relived my "own" past painful experiences.
Reading Boomerang Love helped me realize that even though my own experiences were now long behind me, they were somehow still a part of me. As I re-felt those old, painful experiences, I began to heal in areas where I never imagined pain was still being held.

Knowing that there was an actual "name to my pain" (borderline personality disorder) was like salve to my wounds, the healing element that had been missing all these years. At last I knew the "whys". Going back and re-living my pain, this time with "new eyes" that understood borderline personality disorder, released those many years of pent-up pain.

Because of my personal faith in a God who heals, I believe that it was He who brought this most valuable information to me through Lynn Melville's book. Not only did I need to understand the nature of my partner's disorder, I needed to be able to recognize my own relationship patterns. Now I know that I will never again participate in this precious life of mine with anyone else who is so personally trouble and damaged that they would try to destroy my very soul.

Breaking Free From Boomerang Love is not only a story of personal pain and healing, but also one that provides other valuable informational resources for anyone who is currently involved in a relationship with someone suffering from borderline personality disorder. The "Resources and Tools" section provides many current books that have been written to educate and empower partners, safety information on how to carefully plan to leave a borderline personality relationship, support groups for partners (online and in person), and many websites devoted to information on borderline personality disorder.

In addition, Ashleigh Brilliant's Pot-Shots clearly illustrate in a straightforward manner what life is like for partners of border personality disordered people. I frequently turn to the Pot-Shots in the back of the book to remind me of the insanity that was once my life - and which I am comforted to now know will never be again.

N. Thompson