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Summary: One step closer to inner peace and happiness in my marriage
Review: I loved the main idea of this book. Insead of focusing on my spouse, I could focus on what I could do myself to make things as I wanted them to be. After I thought about it, I realized it was either keep waiting around like a spectator or I could start taking action. Great book, I highly suggest it to anybody who wants to do different things and do things differently in their relationships.
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Summary: One step closer to inner peace and happiness in my marriage
Review: I was having a world of problems in my marriage and I did not know where to look. After being inspired by some of the things these authors said on a radio show, I decided to read this book. Boy am I glad I did! I'M RIGHT. YOU'RE WRONG. NOW WHAT? punched right through my walls of denial and forced me to make a real objective re-evaluation of myself and my relationship. It did wonders for me. After that it was easy to see that I did not have to stay hung up on trying to prove that I was right every time my husband and I disagreed. The touching personal stories in this book showed me how I could get past the stuck point in an argument even if my husband refused to see things from my perspective. This is a really fine book that has taken me one step closer to inner peace and happiness in my marriage.
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Summary: a younger reader
Review: I was unsure how this book was going to be helpful for my new relationship but I quickly discovered that the steps are simple and easy to follow. That this is not a book written only for older couples but for me and my generation as well. There were helpful hints and guidelines for me to use in almost any situation I came across with my spouse. And, I was delighted to find out that this was a great gift for my parents too.
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Summary: Be Part of the Solution, End the Problem!
Review: If you need to solve a problem with someone, you need to become the first step towards a solution -- afterall, you have to want to solve it for yourself to be happy. "I'm Right. You're Wrong. Now What?" enables you to create that very catalyst for change in your life. This book provides a personal safety zone from which to address what's keeping you up nights, focus on the next steps to bring about change, and most importantly come to a personal decision about what you are going to do about it! The best part is that the authors, two professionals in the world of relationships and counseling have translated years of experience into a 6 question strategy for the rest of us. Everyone from kids who need to "handle it myself" to adults who "don't need any help" should start with I'm Right. You're Wrong. Put it under someone's pillow! They'll thank you.
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Summary: Use six questions to improve relationship communication
Review: This book is about how to ask six questions, and use the answers to better communicate with our partner and improve a variety of relationship issues. The six questions are:
1. What are my negative feelings?
2. What's the fairest way to describe the problem?
3. Why do I want to work things out?
4. How would I like things between us to be?
5. How can I actually get that?
6. And if that doesn't work, what else can I do?
The authors use this approach with dozens of individuals who are in relationships and are having issues with each other related to everything from raising the kids, to ex-spouses, to sex, to money. In fact there are 16 chapters essentially showing how this approach works in a variety of situations.
I have no doubt that this does work. Rather than solving the issue however, these questions and this approach are really about how to compromise with the other person in the relationship, take ownership for "my" side of the problem, and improve communication clarity and understanding. My only concern with this book is that it is like reading a screenplay versus watching the film, or reading the sheet music versus hearing the symphony. Both are accurate depictions of the same reality, yet one fails to really capture the deeper passion and emotions as clearly as the other. The authors work hard at never making any moral decisions, and assume all situations can be simply resolved through this approach. The book is a logic first, logic last and only logic approach. Life is much richer than that though, and improved communication and compromise gets one only so far when there are deeper issues.
If this book is viewed as simply a useful tool for helping open doors to those tough issues we often procrastinate on or are reluctant to address for fear of conflict, then I highly recommend it. The process of getting our thoughts out in a rational way is always helpful in better understanding what lies at the heart of these issues.
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