How To Succeed With Men

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Summary: Get the Scoop on Men
Review: I'm a man who read "How to Succeed with Women" after so many dating failures. It seemed like all of my friends were finding successful relationships and getting married where I was struggling just to have a date once and a while. I devoured David and Ron's "Women" text with zeal for its specificity of detail.

I couldn't help but read their "Men" novel to see how they advised women about us. Their candor to women surprised and impressed me. This is not a book for working on yourself via introspection (although there are some great ones out there) nor does it preach female subordination to men. It's about how to play the female side of the dating game successfully by learning what's going on for men on their side. Look elsewhere if you want broader metaphors for the two sexes a la "Mars" and "Venus" explanations. Likewise, if you don't need any great detail, then read "The Rules" instead (read "The Rules" regardless).

However, if you're beating yourself up for always attracting the wrong kind of mate or perhaps frequently seeming to scare off the right kind, etc., then see if the first couple of chapters don't jump out at you. The authors know that the market for relationship books already overflows with oblique, generalized instruction to women about men. Appreciate their device in writing as one man speaks to another in order to offer you a more direct understanding of mens' thought processes. As the saying goes: "Take what works for you and leave the rest."

-reformed Sensitive New Age Guy

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Summary: A Must Read if You're Not as Good at Dating as You'd Like...
Review: I'm a very well-educated, attractive and social woman who has had mediocre luck with men. I haven't found many I'm interested in and those I've found haven't turned out to have the qualities I want. Many men I was interested in became good friends but not romantic partners. I've always thought part of it was that I have never understood men, what motivates them, what they are looking for in a relationship and how they think. I also tend to get too carried away at the beginning of a relationship by the newness and passion to keep my wits about me and make a good decision as to whether the guy is really right for me. If you're anything like me, then you need to read this book! The authors tell women to put pen to paper and decide what they really want in a partner. Then they say that it's OK to be picky and you don't have to keep dating someone if he doesn't measure up to your "list." They also explain what motivates and interests men in relationships (the area I needed the most work in) and why you need to nurture your partner to keep his romantic interest alive. They also give good tips for testing the man to be sure that he really is good enough for you (and they don't tell you what that is, they let you define that for yourself). I don't agree with the reviewers who say that this book is one sided and it directs women to cater only to men's needs. I actually think they do a good job of matching up women's needs with men's and they give a great game plan for trying to satisfy both. Being in my late 30's, I think I'm at a point now where I'm ready to hear what the authors have to say. I think the reviewers who characterize the authors' point of view as frat boy or chauvinistic are still at the point in their maturity where they don't want to acknowledge that men and women ARE JUST DIFFERENT and you aren't sacrificing your independence or yourself just because you make your man a priority! I think they also haven't acknowledged that relationships take work, and you need to do what men need, not what YOU think they need! Highly recommended!!

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Summary: Systematic, helpful, and fair
Review: I'm an academic and so I'm smart about a lot of things, but dating is not one of them. Unlike other reviewers, I found this book extremely fair and very helpful. I have not thought about dating in many years, but I decided to think about it and I bought about eight books. This is the only one that you need. It helps you with a systematic plan. It gives you the thirty day jump start if you are out of practice, and in three days it has helped me so much men are talking to me everywhere I go. It helps you take responsibility for what you want, respect that the other person can have different wants, and tells you how to go about looking for, finding, attracting, enjoying, and maintaining a relationship. It's very realistic and I think it is very practical and effective. It has helped me be optimistic about the possibility of creating a solid mutually gratifying relationship. You still have to work on the inside of yourself, but this is the road map for constructing a partnership.

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Summary: A Must Read!
Review: I've been reading Cosmo for years and tried all the other dating techniques for women, but this book is different. These guys really spelled out the dating world to me from a man's perspective. For the first time in years I feel optimistic that I find a mate. I see how I've not been allowing men to get close to me and avoiding a relationship in the process. I recommend this book to use in finding a man.

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Summary: Textbook-Information, But Dull Read (Unfortunately)
Review: It's 450 pages long and could be used for a textbook if colleges taught a course on "how to succeed with men." But like college it's hard to keep awake when the professor is speaking.

It's a good value (price for quantity of information), but it's the kind of book you like to have in your personal library, but you'll probably never get through it.

The question is whether you'll actually read it or not.

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Summary: Does not invite to be read
Review: Life got better for me once I was 30 and one of the reasons for that was that I cared less about the fact if people like me or not. I now focus on whether I like myself.
Then you see a book like this one and you think if you have to review all the conclusions to which you have come.
Of course, life is better if you have a great relationship with a supportive partner, but how far do you want to go to find this? In the preview I read that these guys tell that they will insult women because they will talk straight. I think it is possible to talk straight without insulting. I also think that it is possible to be a real man without being insensitive. Just like it is possible to be a real woman without being a nag.
I don't feel like selling my soul to obtain something in life so I don't think this book can give me some validation or help.

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Summary: COMPLETE [junk]!!!
Review: Please don't waste your money. I actually think the two authors are writing their own "rave reviews" on this piece of [junk]. I borrowed this book from a friend after having read "How to Succeed with Women" (another atrocity by the same authors) out of morbid curiousity. I didn't think anything could possibly be worse than "How to Succeed with Women" but I was wrong. This is horrid. The entire advice of these oh-so-brilliant authors is basically to put your meat on the seat or put your feet on the street. It completely caters to the Neanderthal in every man - even encouraging women to put out whenever possible...now who is this book really for I ask you?

I find it interesting that the 5 star reviews came from men...wow...what a surprise. Believe me, anything above 1 star claiming to have come from a female reader is a lie. Women don't need to be told how to succeed with men...we do that by breathing.

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Summary: Self-Serving Garbage
Review: The title of this book should be "How to Succeed with Self-Centered, Completely Unlovable Little Boys Who Really Don't Like Females". If you want to become a slavish Lewinsky clone & get treated like dirt (& then dumped), follow the advice of this stupid book. If you want to find a REAL man (one who is actually capable of-gasp!-loving a female) & preserve your self-respect, follow the advice of Dr. Laura Schlessinger's "Ten Stupid Things Women Do To Mess Up Their Lives".

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Summary: oughta be called "HOW TO SELL OUT" - Avoid!!!
Review: this book basically says it's ok to chase a man, and it wouldn't be a bad idea to start sleeping with him before you are in an exclusive relationship. you should hit on the man to he doesn't have to risk rejection himself. if you are a natual born floozy - then this will hit home. if you have a sense of tradition whatsoever, know what real romance is about, know your worth - it will nauseate you.

i found a few pointers in the very beginning to be true, but also pretty obvious - dating is somewhat of a numbers game etc.

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Summary: The best advice I ever got - fantastic book!
Review: This book changed my life. I had a history of dating men who treated me like I was an afterthought and I kept putting up with it. This book teaches you to 1) decide what your goal is (boyfriend, marriage, casual dating), 2) decide what qualities you want in a man, and 3) don't date anyone more than a few times if he doesn't have those qualities. It was hard but if I could tell on a first or second date that he didn't have certain qualities that I wanted (like humility or generosity) then I politely declined when he asked me out again. My friends said I was being too harsh because I was so ruthless. They said that nobody's perfect and I was being too inflexible. But I stuck with it because what I'd been doing hadn't made me meet the love of my life. So after four months I met a man who had EVERY SINGLE QUALITY on my list! We got married a year later and have now been married for 8 wonderful months. My friends now say that I'm the poster child for successful dating! This book is the reason that I had the courage not to settle for just anyone who came along.