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Summary: Advice coming from the negative viewpoint
Review: The entire feel of the book is that the seperated/divorced men are rats and the single women are victims. There may be a word or two that could be useful to some, but the majority of the text leans towards disposing of the relationship, whatever the case may be. What comes accross from the co-author can be summed up with the following: end the relationship, amend the relationship or continue the relationship. Anyone who can choose an ice cream flavor can figure that out all by herself. Save your money.
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Summary: This is the book I've been looking for.
Review: This book acknowledges that women fall in love with divorcing men every day, and provides strategies for dealing with that situation's unusual pitfalls. I was afraid that the authors were going to tell me I was doing something wrong or bad, but they were on my team from page one. They do a great job of combining concern for the woman's emotional well-being with a realistic focus on keeping the relationship alive and healthy. _How to Survive_ is a very practical book, providing checklists and straight talk, not distant theoreticals. I learned about myself, my boyfriend, our relationship and his marriage from this book. I feel like I have new tools for dealing with this unique situation. I can't recommend _How to Survive Your Boyfriend's Divorce_ highly enough.
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Summary: Warning: contents may be a little harsh!
Review: This book contained some useful information for someone in the unique (and often painful) position of dating a divorcing man. It is the only book of its kind (the best accolade I can give it), but I didn't find it that helpful. Sprinkled with humor and understanding, many times the humor seemed inappropriately glib. The book was condescendingly pessimistic - e.g. the authors go into detail about how the divorcing man will devote to you and tell you how wonderful you are only because he's desperate from having just come out of a bad marriage. True or not, a little tact is needed here! At times the book is even rude, including inappropriate commands like "stop whining" and "get over it!" The tone of the book tends make one feel foolish rather than supported and advised. I wanted more: more understanding, more insight, and more expertise. I have a difficult time recommending this book; but if you are dating a divorcing man and are about to lose it, read the book with the warning that it's a little harsh, and with the understanding that it's only written by someone who's been through it rather than an expert on relationships/divorce. Good luck!
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Summary: Immensely helpful
Review: This book has helped and continues to help me, not only in dating someone who is in the midst of a divorce, but also in terms of relationships in general. I have read and re-read the book. About everything that is said I've found a use for. The single most important thing it teaches is how not to give yourself up for the other person. How to "return to your own life" if feeling frustrated or needy. Doing this has made a big difference in my relationship and saved my own happiness and peace of mind. I'm immensely grateful for this book. The author should write a book for women about how to "do relationships" in general.
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Summary: Wow, unbelievable how textbook my situation is...
Review: This book has saved my sanity! It has also helped me realize that my situation is not hopeless and has given me a better perspective. I could find a little of myself in so many of the stories told in the book, but most importantly I feel validated in my feelings and a lot of my actions. I sincerely thank the authors for writing this book. I'm glad I didn't wait to buy it. If you're even considering buying this book, then that means you REALLY need to.
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Summary: What a godsend!
Review: This book is a godsend! Dropped right into my lap, the perfect bookd at the perfect time. One of the chapters, "We're stuck! Now what?" perfectly described my current situation and the practical advice provided by the authors has helped pushed our relationship and the pending divorce along. The advice has also strengthened the relationship, as I have shared antecdotes from the book with my boyfriend. He's glad that I have this book as a resource as much as I am.
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Summary: Every paragraph made me think: "I said that" "I did that"
Review: This book is a must-have for any woman who is involved with a married man whether he is separated or not. It's a quick, easy read, with real situations that make you sit up and realize that you've said that, thought that, done that. It focuses on YOUR mental health, makes you THINK about sanity-saving choices and options and really, leaves the "decision" about "what you should do" up to you. I would recommend this book to those who have recently ended a relationship with still-married men and need that extra bit of "reality" to stick with it. Excellent!
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Summary: putting things in perspective
Review: This book was just the thing I needed. Although my current experience doesn't mirror many of the examples (i.e. she left him, I'm not ready to meet the kids, it hasn't become overly physical, he's been great...), it put the situation into such perspective. There can be a middle ground as long as you don't lose sight of taking care of yourself in the process. And it was so helpful to be reminded to get out of the "how the relationship should look" mindset. It has definitely helped me to remain calm while we figure things out.
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Summary: Great advice....for all types of relationships
Review: This is a great book, and it is based on a true premise: if you are a dating female, you have better than a 50:50 chance of running into a man that is separated but not divorced. I know this is true from personal experience. However, many of the tips in the book have a wider application, for example, any relationship that is struggling with communication issues, family difficulties and committment phobias. Being "smart" in any relationship is not always easy and remembering that "your happiness in in YOUR hands" often gets lost along the way. My copy of this book is underlined, check marked, highlighted and dog-earred. It is an excellent read, great style and upbeat. I would recommend it for anyone in a dating situation, especially for those dating separated (or recently divorced) men.
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Summary: I was so glad to even find out it was possible
Review: When I first saw the title of this book my first reaction was "Boy if there is a book about it it must be possible". Living thru my boyfriend's divorce has been a challenge that I must say I was no way prepared for. What was going to be another "month or two" has now turned into a another year (and this was after the first year when I wasn't even around). This book helped me to see that he really is trying his best to make it happen. I, like most woman needed to know that what I was being told was real. The time line in a divorce is like something from Star Trek where time doesn't exist like it does in the rest of the world. Things come up and delays happen that you just couldn't see ahead of time. What helps is sometimes knowing you have options (even if you don't use them). At the end of each chapter the writer reminds you what your options are and what you can do about them. The case studies within the chapters also help you see things in a clearer manner. When you see it from the outside looking in it helps you see how close or how far you are to the same situation and believe me there are a lot situations that are standard.
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