Finding God Through Sex: A Spiritual Guide to Ecstatic Loving and Deep Passion for Men and Women

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Summary: Spiritual Erotica
Review: "The waves of deep sex can drench you open as an ocean of sacred loving - but just as likely, you can find yourself stranded in pain and loneliness. Sex can offer an openness that washes your heart wide to God, and yet sex is also where your tightest fears can hold you back." -David Deida

Can you really find God through sex? Is this the creative force, divine energy, love or the God who we find in scriptures? The God David Deida guides us towards seems to be a bright light, a center of love and comfort, a place of fulfillment. In a way, you are discovering yourself and learning to give love as God does.

God loves us unconditionally. He loves us when we are angry, when we hurt and even when we reject him. This book is really more about finding your inner power. Finding the power to do good and to show love. For God is Love.

So, through reading this book, will you "find God?" That depends on who you think God is and what you are looking for. If you are looking for an intellectual explanation of the qualities of God, sex is probably not the way to experience those aspects and you might want to reach for a Bible to guide your soul into an eternal direction.

If you are looking for a deep feeling of fulfillment here on earth and want to experience an all-pervading force of love during sex, then you might be moving in the right direction by reading this book in addition to your chosen scriptures.

This is more about finding a place where you transcend time and space and enter a radiant reality. You become a primal god and goddess experiencing love in its most beautiful forms. Sex becomes sacred and divine and welcomes a full expression of bodily pleasure.

I think you will find a deeper understanding of love, sex and relationships. You will discover your ability to love more fully and become loving in moments when you didn't realize you could. When your partner is upset, you will find new powers within yourself to calm and soothe the troubled seas and enjoy the abilities you have to use your entire being to nurture your lover.

Yehudi Menuhin once said: "Each human being has the eternal duty of transforming the hard and brutal into a subtle and tender offering, what is crude into refinement, what is ugly into beauty, ignorance into knowledge, confrontation into collaboration, thereby rediscovering the child's dream of a creative reality incessantly renewed by death, the servant of life, and by life the servant of love."

David Deida seems to share this creative vision in regards to relationships. This book is about creating more love, educating ourselves so we can adjust to changing patterns in our relationships and transforming situations of conflict into situations of deep beauty and acceptance. It is really about dying to what is negative to be reborn into the positive.

It can be difficult to take feelings of fear and rejection, anger and hate and turn them into love. But with the right techniques and a life purpose focused in the direction of loving other human beings to the fullest degree, this does seem possible.

The rewards in following this path are greater than the pain you will feel when you submit to the accepting and all encompassing feeling of love. Because in reality, it is painful to let go of hate and anger. We are at times comforted by these negative feelings, but David Deida shows how punishing your partner can be very destructive.

David Deida has creative solutions for dealing with these natural desires. Instead of stopping the flow of energy, he encourages a redirecting of energy so it becomes love. He turns anger into love. He turns rejection into acceptance. It is profoundly beautiful, yet difficult to practice.

Can a more spiritual, deep sexual experience make you more fulfilled as a human being?
Is surrender the doorway to the deepest possible sex?
What does this surrender mean?

Throughout this book it seems the author is encouraging women to be more aggressive and men to be more loving. He seems to be seeking a balance. He is also willing to tell you about every deep desire men and women have in its fullest beauty and ugliness.

He will push some of your buttons, shock you with his thoughts and at times present very controversial topics. When reading various passages, read them to the end because you will see how he "shocks to get your attention" then "concludes in a loving way."

You won't agree with all his ideas, you will even find yourself rejecting some of his thoughts. It depends on your religious beliefs. You may be against certain practices in sex or you may have very strong beliefs about staying with one partner for life. Yet this author is willing to present life in its most raw form. He presents what actually occurs, what people actually do think. There is no place to hide from reality.

David Deida dives right into spiritual erotica. This book is a wild ride from start to finish. There is nothing tame here. "Finding God Through Sex" is naked honesty. It is a journey into an erotic world of loving deeply, finding your heart's deepest desires and then allowing yourself to become a servant of love.

Before reading this book, you might want to discover:

Naked Buddhism
Living Sacred Intimacy - A 2 CD Set
Dear Lover: A Woman's Guide to Enjoying Love's Deepest Bliss
Spirit Sex Love - A Seminar on Sexual spirituality
The Way of the Superior Man: A Spiritual Guide to Mastering the Challenges
of Women, Work, and Sexual Desire.

I felt that experiencing the selections above helped me to be more accepting of the ideas in this book. I think the ideas in each book build on each other and help you form a complete picture of how to "become love."

A Guide to Experiencing Deep Pleasure in This Life.

-TheRebeccaReview.com

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Summary: take some care here
Review: deida's stuff is pretty much just adi da's stuff with a slight twist. deida was a one-time devotee of da's organisation, adidam, and if you check through da's books (especially early ones like 'the enlightenment of the whole body', 'the garbage and the goddess', 'love of the two-armed form' and 'the dreaded gom-goo') you have more or less already seen the scope of deida's teaching. also it might help to know that da is considered to be a dangerous, misleading failure by the majority of spiritual teachers world-wide, as well as many noted ex-students, and as deida's work is such a close match to da's then maybe it is better left alone.

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Summary: How to connect and balance lust and love
Review: Finding God Through Sex: A Spiritual Guide To Ecstatic Loving And Deep Passion For Men And Women by author, spirituality and human sexuality expert David Deida is an informative, thoughtful, emotional, and quite practical guide to the art and craft of enriching our spiritual life and taking deep pleasures in the love and sexuality that is God's gift to humankind. From learning how to connect and balance lust and love, to learning to open oneself to ecstasy, to lowering barriers to our innermost emotions, Finding God Through Sex is a profoundly insightful, spiritually sensitive, and accessibly written guide which is highly recommended reading in both matters of the physical flesh and the needs of the soul.

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Summary: This book reveals loves beauty
Review: I love the way Deida so eloquently conveys the art of experiancing God through sexual loving. The descriptions of specific senarios that come up while love making are poetic and beautifully writen. Deida's exceptional skill as a teacher is evident as he decribes workable, profound practices that allow lovers to maintain a heart conection -not only to each other but to the infinite- in the midst of the rough and tumble arena of sexual intimacy. I highly recomend his work -and for lovers- this book inparticular.

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Summary: Excellent Introduction to Sexual Tantra
Review: The best book I have ever read on sex.
If you have ever felt that what was essential about sex never seems to make it into porn or sex manuals, this book may be the one you want. This book introduces tantra in a way that people who have no previous experience in yoga or meditation can use it. Parts of seem to be derived from Hinduism, some from Buddhism, and some seem to be original, but all of it is useful.
Even without changing anything that you can see from the outside, everything can change for the better, effortlessly, with reading the first 50 pages or so.