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Summary: The Best Relationship Book I've Ever Read!
Review: I Don't Have To Make Everything All Better, the title caught my eye as I browsed through an airport bookstore. The first thought that came to my mind was, "I wish that were true." At the time I was heavy with personal and relationship issues and the title made me curious so I bought the book. As I read this book over the next couple of days issues in my relationships became amazingly clear. I kept thinking, "Yes, yes, this is it! This is what I need to be applying in my marriage and in all my relationships!" Each page seemed incredibly simple and practical and, at the same time, profound and powerful. As I took in the content, I first thought about myself and my relationships, especially my relationship with my wife and kids. Then I thought about everyone I knew and worked with. I have worked with people one on one and in small groups for the past 18 years, and I kept thinking, "Everyone needs this book!" The principles in this book hit right at the heart of relationships. The Lundbergs insightfully reveal that all of us need to know that we are of worth, that we matter to those around us. We all want to be valued and listened to. However most people don't feel listened to. Most of us don't listen well to others, even the people we love the most. Instead of listening most of us tend to think about our own situation or problems, or we begin to formulate well meaning "advice" we can give to "fix" that person. In so doing we inevitably invalidate that person and begin a process of negative relating for everyone involved. In contrast, the Lundbergs present 6 very simple, practical principles that, when applied, will empower the people and relationships we care about. In a nutshell they practically demonstrate that when we listen - when we truely listen to those we care about, without becoming defensive or thinking about how to "fix" them, we in essence validate them. When people feel validated they are empowered to solve their own struggles and problems with you walking beside them. My wife had told me for years that I did not "validate" her experience, her emotions, her opinions. After reading this book I finally knew what she meant. I meant well by trying to encourage and give advice, but I had never truely listened to her. Once I began applying the principles in this book I felt freed up from always trying to "fix" her and she felt empowered and respected more fully by me. In the work that I do I have literally read 100's of books in the past 18 years - most of them dealing with relationships and leadership. This is the best book I have read on either topic! Get this book, read it, apply it, and share it with others! Dan Christensen
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Summary: Excellent information
Review: I wish I'd had this book, these principals, years ago. The book is well-written, easy to understand, and with practice, the principals work. I've found that they also have helped free me from guilt about not being able to fix everything.
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Summary: This book can help everyone improve their lives!
Review: I would recommend this book to anyone. I've read many things on the subject of relationships before, but nothing that so quickly gives you tools to improve every single relationship you have. When I say tools, I mean it literally; if you want to pound a nail, you reach for a hammer, not a screwdriver. If you want immediate improvement in a relationship, reach for this book.
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Summary: This book can help everyone improve their lives!
Review: I would recommend this book to anyone. I've read many things on the subject of relationships before, but nothing that so quickly gives you tools to improve every single relationship you have. When I say tools, I mean it literally; if you want to pound a nail, you reach for a hammer, not a screwdriver. If you want immediate improvement in a relationship, reach for this book.
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Summary: Everyone MUST read this book! It changes lives!
Review: If the information in this book were used by all people everywhere, the whole world would be void of hate, anger and contention. It should be required reading at every school on earth, because its simple instructions on validation alone could establish the corner stones of peace and harmony among all who imbrace them.Why don't more people know about this incredible book?! What can we do to get the word out to the whole world?! I hope everyone who sees my review will take it to heart and read this problem solving book - them spread the word of its "good news" to everyone they know. Thanks to the authors, the Lundbergs, for taking the time required to provide me with this life changing information. Thank you very much!
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Summary: Very highly recommend - most valuable book I've ever read!
Review: The principles in this book are applicable to any and all relationships in your life. It is very well written, easy to read and the real-life examples used are very relevant and illuminating. You will think twice before using the words 'should' and 'ought' in communicating with people after reading this, and will undoubtedly become a much better listener!
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Summary: Helped me with my married children!
Review: The simple concepts in this book work. Now that my children are grown and married, I know what to do when they have the normal problems that come with raising a family. I'm better equipped to get out of the way and let them solve those problems--which they are able to do! The chapter on dealing with married children has been extremely helpful.
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Summary: A valuable book.
Review: This book explains how to practice validation, a technique for improving one-on-one communication that requires empathetic listening to another person's thoughts without making judgements or attempting to resolve the other person's problems.
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Summary: Changed my life
Review: This book is great.
Easy to read, practical, with very concrete advice that WORKS immediately!
You can start applying the suggestions right away and reap the benefits.
It worked with my 3 year old son and my 60 year old father. It's going to really enhance the relationship I have with my son. No kidding! Depending on your personality type, if you are experiencing some stress & communication problems in your relationships, buy this book right away. It could do miracles for you too.
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Summary: Validating Prinicples - Changed My Life w/ Family & Business
Review: This book is written in plain,easy-to-understand language. My daughter was diagnosed with an eating disorder. Parents find it difficult in coping with an eating disorder and this book has helped so many. Professionals and Famiy Members absolutely can benefit and live by the Validation Principles and Questions. I can now listen and understand another person's point of view without having to change it. I have ordered at least six books for close friends. My own therapist has enjoyed the book and is now teaching the Validation Priniciples to parents with teenagers. I am now using the techniques in teaching management in my real estate business.
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