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Summary: Very Interesting, But Does It Work For Most Women?
Review: As a former trainer in NLP for 7 years I've always been impressed with how effective these techniques are for creating internal change (habits, behaviors, disciplines, overcoming fears, sales, etc.)But the ability to create change in other people (like getting a man to fall in love with you) is something that I believe from my experience in the field almost no one can achieve on their own with NLP. I wrote my fishy relationship/self-help book because I saw how different the real works as opposed to the NLP-seminar-John Gray-Tony Robbins models. That experience came from dating in Southern California and going on a lot of cruises and Club Med vacations. What I found is that people who try to use NLP techniques come across as being weird. It also has a strange way of messing with the natural karma of love. For whatever reason, when you try to get someone else to fall in love with you through an organized skill set like this, it has a way of ruining the magic for yourself. What is important to know from Tracy's book are the general concepts of sensory acuity and anchoring. Sensory acuity comes in handy when you recognize when you get an instant negative reaction (like bad breath, body odor, unappealing voice, talk too fast, talk too loud, talk too slow, talk too much). These things cause a person to be out of rapport. Which means an unconscious bad first impression. Anchoring has to do with creating stirring memories or special moments. This book is about the mechanics of creating those moments which is all right, but the average person needs to feel it come naturally from within. If a woman really wants to know how to get a man to fall in love, she must first maximize her own feminine allure (Being a Woman by Dr. Toni Grant) and then make her contacts and develop relationships. Dr. Cabot's work will help you with identifying technical mistakes, but not some much about having more to give (variety, intensity, heart), cleansing the spirit, and understanding and appreciating a love partner. As an author, NLP trainer, and semi-relationship expert, I think that this book addresses the 20% of mechanics when it's done right (a very difficult task without years of training and integration...not just in a simple reading of a book!) But what most people really need is the 80% of how loving relationships work from within on the emotional-spiritual world. My advice here is to enjoy this book and become more aware of instant triggers, but don't get carried away and become a weirdo! Weirdness spooks men away quickly! Remember that love is far more spiritual than mechanical.
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Summary: Read this in the 80's and Boy did it help!
Review: Because of the title I was embarassed to even buy the book but it provided a great lesson in what I had been doing wrong in relationships. I applied the lessons in the book and have been very happily married for 14 years. Like any self-help book, you have to sift through what is good for you but it really gives you some great pointers on how we communicate in life not just with a potential spouse but with everyone. Another good book I read back then was "Love Signals", I don't know if you can still get it but it was great too.
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Summary: Dangerous in the Hands of Amateurs
Review: Between this book and David Gibbons' "Love Signals" you have a very powerful arsenault. After years of dating, I read these two books and began to use the suggestions at work and play. I did better at work and I managed to find a great guy who I have now been married to for over 18 years. The book suggests that you try to determine what "language" the prospective "husband" uses in his life to communicate. Is he audial? Responds to sounds. Visual? Tends to learn by viewing, or is able to think spatially like an architect or engineer? Or is he a touchy, feely guy who learns through feelings and touching or manipulating things like a mechanic. Once you identify this, the book teaches you how to communicate in his language style. In addition, it teaches you how to act in a relationship similar to "The Rules" only this book predated "The Rules" and has more concrete information. Enjoy it, but don't use the techniques lightly, they can be highly manipulative.
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Summary: Dangerous in the Hands of Amateurs
Review: Between this book and David Gibbons' "Love Signals" you have a very powerful arsenault. After years of dating, I read these two books and began to use the suggestions at work and play. I did better at work and I managed to find a great guy who I have now been married to for over 18 years. The book suggests that you try to determine what "language" the prospective "husband" uses in his life to communicate. Is he audial? Responds to sounds. Visual? Tends to learn by viewing, or is able to think spatially like an architect or engineer? Or is he a touchy, feely guy who learns through feelings and touching or manipulating things like a mechanic. Once you identify this, the book teaches you how to communicate in his language style. In addition, it teaches you how to act in a relationship similar to "The Rules" only this book predated "The Rules" and has more concrete information. Enjoy it, but don't use the techniques lightly, they can be highly manipulative.
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Summary: Love by Design a Fragile Ornament
Review: For any man a woman would want to be married to, or any woman a man would want to be married to, there is no such thing as "making someone fall in love with you." Love is either recognizable or not, based upon the attentiveness and treatment that accompanies the territory of love, a person's understanding of it, and willingness to make a commitment to it for their own sake to provide the pleasure of loving, as well as receiving love. Love induced, or forced, is rarely a love that has he ability to satisfy the inner most reaches of the heart that are protected from ordinary trampling, and reserved for those special persons who have the ability to awaken its vitality and momentum. Otherwise we'd all be promiscuous and compromising of our greatest value, the ability to have one special person see us as unique enough to create the attachment that equals the glory of love. Ornaments come and go, by fad, but love lingers in the heart, the mind, and the soul where it resides unfettered by the typical offences that would tarnish it, rendering it an ordinary relationship of little difference than a friendship. That's why it is called love and demands so much of us, as if testing the mettle of all who would claim the intricacy of its devine blessings. Deciding which is love and which is not is among the hardest and most difficult of the tasks engaged by mankind, in any language. What people know for sure is that it is not mere sexual attraction, and is not meant to reside in mere availability. Real love is real work that requires real and intense effort by both to send the smoke signals that constitute its possibility and its potential. Rarely is it for the timid, and rarely do we enter it without timidity!
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Summary: Every executive woman should read this book.
Review: For the last couple of years, I have given this book to every woman who ever had a sincere desire to succeed in
business and in life. Tracy Cabot simplified for the reader the differences in communications between men and women. Using the information has made a very substantial difference in my relationships with men off all ages. This is the first"how to" book that I have read, that really worked. Applying the information has helped me dance on the "glass ceiling".
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Summary: Why would you want to "make" someone fall in love?
Review: I have read the book, out of sheer curiosity. But why in the world would you want to "make" someone fall in love with you? You can't "make" someone do anything! I think basically what Ms. Cabot is saying is that you have to alter your own way of communicating and constantly edit yourself to make sure you are talking in the way that your man is talking. I, for one, would find that very confusing and stressful! I do think she has the right idea about making a list of the exact qualities you are looking for and that's why I gave it one star.
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Summary: not good
Review: I read the book and found it to be confusing and uninformative
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Summary: bad, bad advice...
Review: I read this book and "landed" my ex-husband by doing the "mirroring" technique.The result was I pretended to be someone I wasn't and compromised far too much for an abusive, scary man. I'm no psychiatrist but you shouldn't have to "make" or "trick" someone into loving you...it nullifies the entire point of finding love to begin with. Love yourself first and find someone kind, thoughtful, considerate who loves you for yourself. You don't need this crap-ola book. It nearly ruined my life.
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Summary: bad, bad advice...
Review: I read this book and "landed" my ex-husband by doing the "mirroring" technique.The result was I pretended to be someone I wasn't and compromised far too much for an abusive, scary man. I'm no psychiatrist but you shouldn't have to "make" or "trick" someone into loving you...it nullifies the entire point of finding love to begin with. Love yourself first and find someone kind, thoughtful, considerate who loves you for yourself. You don't need this crap-ola book. It nearly ruined my life.
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