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Summary: Can it work?
Review: I read this book over the weekend. Of all the relationship books I have EVER read, this is the only one that had me taking notes. Now, here are the perceived problems:
1. How can I tell if a man is auditory, visual, or feely without already being deeply involved with him? Other than the visual guy, who basically stares you down, it is hard to tell whether a guy is auditory or feely. If he is feeling you up on the first "casual" date, you likely will never get far enough to anchor him. According to the author, the auditory guy needs to be spoken to in terms of "I hear what you are saying." The visual guy needs to be told "I see what you are saying." The feely guy needs to be told "I understand how you feel." In my opinion, getting to the point of speaking in a guy's love language requires that you know him a little bit better than casually.
2. How do you mirror strangers without seeming like a weirdo? I have seen people mirror me and thought they were strange.
Overall, I think the book is a VERY good book but my main problem was the suggestion that you have to become someone else to have a lasting relationship. I don't think that a relationship will work if you are pretending. For instance, if you have a problem with the guy, say for example, he doesn't pick up his socks. Instead of you saying and nagging him to pick up his socks, you maybe should stand by the socks, pick up the sock and step back and ask him (according to his love language) how the area looks with the sock not on the floor.
For instance, the guy is visual so you stand by the sock and then you pick up the sock. You move to another location or by him and say to him "honey, doesn't that area look so nice when everything is picked up off the floor?" You then rub his hand or something to anchor the moment and from then on he will pick up his socks. Now, this likely works, but the techniques are complicated. That's my main gripe, the techniques seem to complicated for human beings with emotions.
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Summary: Read this in high school
Review: I read this when I was a teenager. It was very inspiring to me back then. Since then I have learned that men and women, as human beings, are not so simplistic as the book assumes. Whether a man loves a woman or not is not necessarily only because the woman is doing the techniques/things that the book teaches. (At the very least, I wouldn't want to marry a man that is that simplistic and "manipulatable".) The theory can be seen as part of the whole picture, though, and it certainly is an interesting theory at that. The book is an especially interesting read if you are in the "boy crazy" stages of your life.
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Summary: Still Recommending This Book After All These Years
Review: I read Tracy Cabot's book, How To Make a Man Fall In Love With You, years ago, when I was 15 years younger, and always looking for the "answer" to learning how to bridge the Mars vs Venus gap, though I didn't have a name for the gap back then. Like another reviewer who talks about the three modes from which we communicate and respond, which are visually, auditorially, and kinesthetically, I had studied Neuro Linguistic Programming, among other studies in an attempt to strengthen my communication skills. Fifteen years later, as an adult educator, I often recommend Tracy Cabot's book in my classes on communication, because I believe that it is a simple way to learn this marvelous technique for communicating not only between the two sexes, but between any two human beings. Where else can you find so many wonderful tips on communication in such an inexpensive, easy to read, little package? I just wish that Tracy would put together a wonderful training video on these skills.
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Summary: When it works, it really works!
Review: I started reading this book with mixed feelings - after all, I had joined a singles club and in one year had not met anyone that sent my heart into flip flops. After following Tracy's advice about making a list of the qualities I wanted to find in a man, I was able to narrow down my search and within 4 months had found the man I am going to spend my life with. More importantly, I weeded out those men whose personalities did not work with mine and stopped trying to change myself just to "save the relationship". Thanks, Tracy - your book made my day!
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Summary: What's really necessary
Review: I think all this stuffs in this here book is fine, but what I really think wins a man is that special connection, that intimate connection. Like the kind they teach on the "New Sex Now" dvd. Without that kinda passion, it just ain't worth it no how.
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Summary: This should be read twice
Review: If you could sit in a roomful of men and ask them what it takes to get a man more interested in you, here is where you will find their answers. This is one of those underestimated books that should be a must read. If you want a better insight into what it takes to be more appealing and interesting to men, read this! You'll be surprised by what you have been missing. Perry Rose, author of I Love You...Will You Marry Me?!
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Summary: Learning Theory Applied to Love and Romance
Review: In her now-classic work, Tracy Cabot employs (consciously or not) learning theory in the quest of finding and connecting with men. Based on my graduate work in education I have learned that human beings respond cognitively in primarily three modes: visually, auditorially, or kinesthetically. How fascinating that this research-based information can be applied outside the classroom as well! In addition to giving much information about engendering intimacy, the book also features some great suggestions for improving the search for appropriate contacts in the first place.
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Summary: Too complicated!
Review: In my opinion, the advice given in this book is too complicated.
You have to find out to what category a man belongs (it explains how to find out) and then, according to this category, try to make him fall in love with you. I found it very difficult to put into practice.
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Summary: Love, Sex and NLP
Review: Neuro Linguistic Programming (NLP for short) is very powerful if done correctly. This book focuses on how you can "program his brain" during your courting period to help move "love" along. Tracy does a very good job of describing how it works. If you don't know what an "anchor" is a relationship, this is a good place to start. It's important to remember that the subject of dating/courtship/relationships is the size of North America, and learning NLP is only enough information to fill up the state of Florida. If you rely ONLY on NLP, you're missing out on the magic of a relationship. (I'm not just talking about that indefinable thing known as chemistry, but I'm talking about the deeply satisfying friendship that results from a true love relationship.) There are a lot of books that you can read once, glean a few gems, and come out ahead. This isn't one of those. This is meant to be a manual that is studied, tried, tested and perfected. As a dating expert, I understand the importance of NLP to cement a relationship. But many novice NLP'ers get frustrated when trying to apply this scientific approach to the emotional experience of dating. Remember when you first learned to ride a bicycle? Unless you were a super-athlete at 5, you probably fell off your bike a time or two. The same is true with using NLP to reel in a lover. It takes both patience and practice. But if you're serious about getting a leg-up on the competition, add this book to your library of dating books. After all, information is power!
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Summary: A Working Plan
Review: The book works. It proviedes the reader with a working plan to develop an intimate relationship with a significant other. I used the plan on some unworthy "test" subjects and found them hard to get rid of. When it came time for me to use it on the man I deemed man of my dreams... it worked! I am now happily married to a great guy. Even though, this is my second marriage and I came with a bunch of kids... he loved me and wanted to have a lifelong committment with me.
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