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Summary: "Dreams that become unfulfilled;...
Review: ...anticipated joy that was suddenly quenched." Quoted from "I'll Hold You In Heaven." If you have ever experienced the "wrenching loss of a child in the womb or during the weeks and months following birth," this book was written for you. Jack Hayford's book will help you to sort through all those confusing feelings you may be experiencing and answer a lot of your questions. This book will bring comfort to the discontented soul of a parent who has lost a child through miscarriage, stillbirth, abortion or early infant death. I highly recommend it. It is the first book I give out to all my friends who have experienced this type of loss.
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Summary: Very helpful book
Review: ...I had never really thought about what happens to these unborn children once life in the womb has stopped. I found this book to be very comforting and reassuring because it is scripturally based... I would, without hesitation, share this book with any friend who experiences a miscarriage. Some folks find that this book is a little bit preachy about abortion. If you don't want to read that portion, please just skip the last 2 chapters and the addendum...
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Summary: If you've had a miscarriage, please read this book
Review: ...I had never really thought about what happens to these unborn children once life in the womb has stopped. I found this book to be very comforting and reassuring because it is scripturally based... I would, without hesitation, share this book with any friend who experiences a miscarriage. Some folks find that this book is a little bit preachy about abortion. If you don't want to read that portion, please just skip the last 2 chapters and the addendum...
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Summary: Helped me cope with what happened to the baby
Review: After two years of infertility and two consecutive pregnancy losses at 8 weeks and 13 weeks, I have read many excellent books that helped me understand and deal with the emotional aspects of my miscarriages. However, none of them dealt as directly as I would have liked with what happens to the baby. I instinctively felt that the baby would be in heaven, but I was clueless as to what kind of form the baby would take, if I would know my baby when I got to heaven, etc.This book addressed these questions very directly and with excellent scriptural back-up. I now have every confidence that I will spend eternity with both of my children, and that we will know and love each other when we are reunited. This book is NOT a guide for dealing with the grief aspects of pregnancy loss, but it will answer many questions about the reality of your child as a living being. The answers to these questions were a big help to me in my quest for healing.
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Summary: I'll Hold you in Heaven
Review: As the Infertility Host for Bella Online, I thought this would be a good book to read. Jack Hayford has written a book entitled "I'll Hold You in Heaven - Healing and Hope for the Parent Who has Lost a Child through Miscarriage, Stillbirth, Abortion, or Early Infant Death." This book discusses the life of the child who has died during pregnancy or shortly after. This is done in 8 chapters. Chapter 1 is "The Gift of Loves." Chapter 2 is "When Does Significance Begin?" Chapter 3 is "Life to What Degree?" Chapter 4 is "Destiny in the Afterworld." Chapter 5 is "In Heaven as a Person." Chapter 6 is "Instruments of Healing." Chapter 7 is "The Heartbeat of Love." Chapter 8 is "Three Steps to Loving." Although this book says that it is for any parent who has lost a child anytime from early in a pregnancy to shortly after a baby is born, I find that to not be true. This books seems to be more for someone who has had an abortion. There is a need for a book to minister to someone who has had an abortion, but I do not feel that this book should be marketed to people who have had a miscarriage, stillbirth, or early infant death, when it actually does not truly reach out to them. In spite of the fact that I have a problem with how this book is marketed, I do appreciate Chapter 6 "Instruments of Healing." It gives 3 steps to take in working through your grief to reach a place of healing. The first is "Understanding the Truth About God." God can take the pain that you are feeling and use it for our good. The second is "Embrace the Process of Grief." Losing a child is truly a loss regardless of what anyone tells you. It is natural to grieve for a lost loved one. Let yourself grieve. The third is "Put Guilt in Its Place." Guilt is a part of the grief cycle. When you lose a child, you are sure that something you did or did not do caused your baby to die. One must confront their guilt and determine whether it is real or not. Whether your guilt is real or not, God can and will help you through this. You can reach a place of healing.
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Summary: I'll Hold you in Heaven
Review: As the Infertility Host for Bella Online, I thought this would be a good book to read. Jack Hayford has written a book entitled "I'll Hold You in Heaven - Healing and Hope for the Parent Who has Lost a Child through Miscarriage, Stillbirth, Abortion, or Early Infant Death." This book discusses the life of the child who has died during pregnancy or shortly after. This is done in 8 chapters. Chapter 1 is "The Gift of Loves." Chapter 2 is "When Does Significance Begin?" Chapter 3 is "Life to What Degree?" Chapter 4 is "Destiny in the Afterworld." Chapter 5 is "In Heaven as a Person." Chapter 6 is "Instruments of Healing." Chapter 7 is "The Heartbeat of Love." Chapter 8 is "Three Steps to Loving." Although this book says that it is for any parent who has lost a child anytime from early in a pregnancy to shortly after a baby is born, I find that to not be true. This books seems to be more for someone who has had an abortion. There is a need for a book to minister to someone who has had an abortion, but I do not feel that this book should be marketed to people who have had a miscarriage, stillbirth, or early infant death, when it actually does not truly reach out to them. In spite of the fact that I have a problem with how this book is marketed, I do appreciate Chapter 6 "Instruments of Healing." It gives 3 steps to take in working through your grief to reach a place of healing. The first is "Understanding the Truth About God." God can take the pain that you are feeling and use it for our good. The second is "Embrace the Process of Grief." Losing a child is truly a loss regardless of what anyone tells you. It is natural to grieve for a lost loved one. Let yourself grieve. The third is "Put Guilt in Its Place." Guilt is a part of the grief cycle. When you lose a child, you are sure that something you did or did not do caused your baby to die. One must confront their guilt and determine whether it is real or not. Whether your guilt is real or not, God can and will help you through this. You can reach a place of healing.
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Summary: I'll hold you in Heaven
Review: did not help me deal with anything! I think it avoided answering any of the questions by refering to the Bible. If I was anymore upset about this I would have actually went to be with my child. It focused on "you will meet your child/ren one day". I wanted to do that.
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Summary: don't bother with this book
Review: I failed to find any comfort in this writer's work, even though I'm a Christian and believe pretty much everything he believes. He makes many unwarranted assumptions and some of the "science" was kind of ludicrous. I left the book feeling I'd wasted my time and money. He clearly wanted to write a book only about aborted babies, based on the time he spends dealing with abortion, and seemed to branch out to include stillbirth and neonatal death in order to have enough of a book to publish. Take a pass on this one. There are far superior Christian bereavement resources out there.
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Summary: The book is hopeful, while offering biblical backup.
Review: I feel the book offers hope that our babies have gone on to heaven, backed up by scripture references. However, I feel the book focuses too much on abortion. While there probably is a need for this type of forgiveness and resolution to those who have had abortions, it felt uncomfortable for me to be lumped in with those mothers. I have suffered a stillbirth at 38 1/2 weeks. I desperately wanted my child, so it bothered me to have to deal with the abortion issue so much throughout the book.
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Summary: A great Christian based book
Review: I found the book to have strong bible based beliefs. The author uses scripture references throuhout and does try to answer all questions even pointiing out areas where there are no clear answers. My now ex wife and I had been through misscarriages and I had always had wondered on what had happened to our onborn baby, at the time of the misscarriage she was about 12 weeks pregnant when she lost the baby. The book was a answer to my prayers.
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