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Summary: Here's to a New Life!
Review: For a year after the break up of my engagement I was horrible. I couldn't find a guy to date me more than a week. I wanted that committment back so I was breaking all these rules.I bought The Rules I and II and my life has never been better. I gave my friend the first one while I was reading the second one. The very next day she was done with that one and was begging me for the next! Our dating lives are unbelievable. I started to stray from "The Rules" because I'm just not used to acting so old-fashioned. What do you know....the man dumped me because I was moving too fast! So girls...FOLLOW THE RULES! This is what my friend e-mailed me after reading "The Rules": "He has an attitude about my "rendezvous" this weekend. Of course he doesn't know that the man sharing the bed with me was none other than my 7 year old son!! Hey, he didn't ask and I wasn't volunteering. I love the "rules" because if he really wants to be with me he will show it and if not, I won't be wasting my time." "I can NOT begin to tell you the difference I have noticed in the way men treat me already! I don't walk around "scouting" for men like I used to. I get where I'm going and I have things to do and people to see and you would not believe the guys who say hi. I feel better too. It really makes a difference!" Now if that doesn't make you want to buy the book....
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Summary: Worth every penny, but does it work?
Review: I gave this book 4 Stars not because I agree with everything the authors say, but just because this book is so entertaining and fun to read! The Rules have changed my perspective on dating and made me re-evaluate my behavior in past relationships. Although it's 21st century, men are still expected to call women, ask us out and pay for our dates. Call me old fashioned, but chivalry is not dead, people. The most important lesson to be learned from this book is if a man does not call you, he's not that interested. Don't play psychologist ladies, just move on. You don't have to actually follow the Rules step by step to have success with dating and relationships because doing the Rules is HARD. And frankly you can scare some good guys away by practicing them religously. Some Rules I agree with are not pursuing a man, asking for his number and constantly calling him. Some Rules I don't agree with are keeping phone calls to 10 minutes, ending calls first and not returning calls. If you abruptly ends phone calls with a man he will eventually stop calling. No man is going to relentlessly pursue a woman who appears disinterested no matter how beautiful she is, unless of course he is a loser. I recommend this book if you want to be amused and rethink your dating pattern. And remember ladies, when he asks you out it's The Rules; anything else is just conversation.
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Summary: Men Want What They Can¿t Have
Review: Some people have criticized The Rules for being too old-fashioned, but let's face it ladies ... men are hunters. They want what they can't have. Once you come to understand that dating IS a game, The Rules will help you win. After all, your ultimate goal is to reel in your lover. And what better way than playing hard to get? Many people have misunderstood the gems of wisdom in this book. The point isn't to play games, just for the sake of playing games. The point is to be alluring and mysterious. After all, if you come on too strong, or demand too much, or are too available, your guy just might move on and find someone else to hunt. By keeping a little distance between you and your man, he'll be in hot pursuit. As a singles coach, I've seen it time and time again. The lady who is an illusive butterfly is the one that men will move mountains to catch, while the girl who is "always around" becomes part of the scenery. Bottom Line-The Rules is a good starting point for anyone who wants a guy to fall head over heels for her.
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Summary: I could talk for 49 milleniums about how DUMB this book is!
Review: Hey, I'm not dissing "The Rules" entirely. About 1% of the book I agree with: the part where they advise not to jump in the sack with your date on the first day or few first months. That's it. The rest is just dumb, like I said in the title of this review. Don't approach a guy? Don't talk to him first? Don't ask him to dance? Never go Dutch on a date? Never be heftier than other girls? Don't call him? Bull!!! Today women have rights and they should be able to take the elephant by the tusks and ask a man (or boy, depending on your age) to dance or call him or approach him or ask him out on a nice fun date. As for the "hefty" thing, that really ticks me to Saturn! Hefty is just as beautiful as thin and thin is just as beautiful as hefty. I am sick and tired of of Hollywood saying "thin" is THE only beauty! I'm also sick of people saying "hefty" is more REAL than thin. They're both REAL and both belong to different types of women and men. Everyone is equally beautiful, no matter what people say. NEVER BELIEVE ANYTHING HOOLYWOOD SAYS! If a guy doesn't like you because of your weight, he's an ... and doesn't deserve you. Good guys, the real guys that you will spend the rest of your life with, will look beyond you body--no matter what it looks like--and will gaze for the real person in your very soul. I threw the book across the bedroom in absolute rage when I read "Remember, overweight is not the rules." What I would've written is "Beauty is in the eye of the beholder." If you see a person and think "jeez, they're ugly," you are wrong. If you get to know the person--really get to KNOW them--and see that they are a gorgeous person on the inside, you will start to see their body that way, as well. "The Rules" is extinguishing a very important part of a relationship: joint particapation. If you always make him pay for lunch and dinner and movie tickets and zoo admission and always end a call first because you have "other things to do" and make him search for pen and paper when he asks for your phone number, you're not building a relationship or creating more tension, you are telling him you could care less about him. A relationship is about giving a little and taking a little and if you are always running away and not answering his messages, you are not in a relationship, you are in something entirely different: a wild goose chase. As for the whole "Rules" concept, this what I have to say... Acting a "certain way" to manipulate a man into marrying you is completely sick. Men are not animals that need to be trained and whipped once a week, they are human beings with souls and minds of their own. Most men are pretty decent and will respect your ways if he likes you for WHO YOU ARE, not some mumbo-jumbo "WAY" to "GET" a man. Of course, they're are those women-hating ... in overalls. Don't bother with them, the sickos. The small and gist of this review: "The Rules" is completely dumb and will throw 10000000000000% more ... on your love life than sunshine. My one motto I go by when it comes to guys: Be yourself, not someone else, don't follow some mumbo-jumbo "RULES" set out for you by women who have no idea what dating is all about, and if he doesn't like you for who you are and who you always meant to be...he's an ....
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Summary: Blah.
Review: Not only is this book full of drivel, but it sets the women's rights movement back about 100 years. Men like you because you are smart, funny, pretty, or whatever, and aren't afraid to show who you are. Advising women to hide themselves and play ridiculous games with men is pathetic. What happens when they find out that the way you've been treating them is purposeful, and aimed solely towards marriage?
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Summary: Entertaining Drivel
Review: As a male, I was amused to pick up a copy of this book prior to a flight and it kept me entertained for the duration of the two hours. Let me start off by saying that there are no distinct rules - everyone is different, with a style, attitude and behavioural pattern that is conditioned through prior experience and situation resolution. Apply these rules too literally and you become little better than a short-term challenge and frankly tedious, unless of course you are chasing an inexperienced 17 year old guy. Whilst it is true that anyone who gushes with praise at every step rapidly becomes tiresome, let me assure you that I will not call anyone four times. I will not try to determine whether the person receiving the calls is playing a game or not - who cares? It certainly is not worth the energy trying to work it out. 10 minute phone calls, marvellous - might not have to listen to the last shopping expedition and what happened to the cat on Monday morning. No dating after Wednesday (or was that Thursday) suggestions. Great - now the weekend is free to look for someone able to think for herself. No danger of bumping into our 'rules' girl - she is too busy leading an active life and discussing her strategic brilliance with her female friends. Unless you are stunningly attractive, you will not get too far playing the role of the pampered primadonna, and if this is the case, why exactly are you reading this psychologically rejected verbiage? Listen to 'I need a girl' by P. Diddy - you might learn more. Bottom line - the destination here is very unclear: do you want to end up happy or go through a formulaic approach which is going to alienate many. Remember, your average guy has already been through a lot of confusion already, and is not too keen on starting again. Whilst not all males are the same, surely one of us has bothered to write a book on this subject (there appears to be a captive audience) - might be worth reading it, or conversely, you could just accept that failed relationships are just part of growing up, allowing you to determine what and who you want, as well as helping you determine who you really are. This book appears to advocate the opposite. Your call, your life...
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Summary: A MUST for all men!!
Review: Ever feel like you're being played by the 'dating' system...well this book will explain some of the obtuse behavior you might have seen women display...eg. When he asks you out, silently count to five before saying yes...when walking down the street, drop his hand first...always end phone calls first...I casually asked 10 women if they had heard of this book. 9/10 knew of it and half said they owned or at least had read part of at one time or another...when you cant figure out what's going on in the dating game...this might explain at least some of it. I gave it 5 stars because it's so much fun to read if you're a guy...my best to Ms. Fein and Ms. Schneider for putting some of these ridiculous gambits into one handy and entertaining source! Ken Giuffre MD
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Summary: Changed my whole life
Review: No doubt this book is a landmark in clearly defining self-esteem and winning at the game of love. Those who don't believe are just fooling themselves! .... Viva La Rules!
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Summary: WARNING!!
Review: I would like to warn ladies from this recipe for disaster..
playing such harsh, unfair games only pushes smart men away,
it doesn't take long for someone to realize that a woman is playing games, and so he saves face and becomes resentful and stubborn and eventually he leaves.
If you try these rules on someone you admire, i can garantee that he will eventually get resentful and angry and leave.
these rules are against the spiritual law that says "do unto others as you would have them do unto you"
how do you expect someone to care and give you love and affection when you deprive him of these same things?!!
even if a man innocently did give you love and affection at the begining out of admiration, later on when he discoves that you play games!! he will feel deceived and give you hell for it.
No one likes to feel that he's been fooled from someone who plays games on him. and trust me it doesnt take a smart man to realize that a woman who does the rules is playing games... I really hope that the women who wrote this book, would one day have the decency to come out and admit their wrong.
as someone who out of experience realised the false claims of this book, i m here to warn you.
If you want love and affection from a decent man give it...thats the rule...
P.S. to be honest i have to admit that the rules did bring me some men, you know who, the old fashioned, pride less manipulative horrible men, and it sure made me loose the well educated tender natured lovely handsome men...
I hope this review can save you ladies reading it,
I hope so before its too late....
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Summary: My version of the Rules
Review: Could this age-old notion work? Is it best to be aloof.................to be mysterious?
Of course, we need to establish meaningful relationships based on honesty and trust, however on Venus, we dig into things. We uncover a lot. We explain everything. But when visiting Mars, there is a lot to be said for not letting it all out at once. This is not a recommendation to play games. In fact, it's the antithesis of playing games. You can stick to your motives........get your heart's desire, and be happy if you just RELAX. It's about trusting that you deserve what you DO like and that if the man in question is meant to be, he will deliver it on his own. If he is worthy of you, you will NOT need to push and belabor and give it all away. We may be clouding the perfect glass ball that is before us. Just watch a man. Let him act on his own. Observe and be patient. Just watch and see what he's capable on his own.
Yes, he may need encouragement and reassurance and being candid is not a bad thing. The problem is when you hand him the answers on a silver platter. When you feed him the lines you want to hear and he delivers them back perfectly!! Or is that perfect? You have undoubtedly either A) just heard him say something that you wanted to hear, but not what he really meant or felt, thereby hurting you in the long run because, frankly ladies, he NEEDS to want you on his own terms. OR B) he will not respond to you the way you liked, leaving you only more wrapped up and hurt. Infuriated perhaps. It will blind you to what he IS doing that may be wonderfully special in his own way. Or blinding you, more dangerously, from what he is NOT doing. That is cause for concern.
Sit back.......read his signs. If it comes naturally from him, it will feel all the better.
Often women try to impose their thoughts and feelings on someone to PUSH them and see what they really feel. If they're feeling anything of value, there will be no need to push. And no, not all men are super confident and outgoing......and if he doesn't call you the day after he met you, it doesn't mean that he did not like you or is not really serious. Men may not come in the cookie cutter shapes you'd hoped for. And that doesn't mean they aren't real men. He may do it in his own time and in his own way, and that is just as honorable. However, we often try to control this by forcing ourselves on them to tame our own insecurities ........... This is the hardest part. Being aloof and mysterious does not mean not being able to show him you like him. It does not mean acting sheepish or spineless........It's empowering. It means that you trust and love yourself so much that you will wait to see his natural reaction and have the strength of character to accept whatever the outcome.
If you want to call him, definitely do! If you want to tell him you like him, definitely do! Follow your heart always and being candid is gold. However, don't do so to rush to that state of acceptance. Just be honest with yourself as to why you're doing it. Are you insecure that he may not call you so you want to beat him to the punchline and make up some excuse to call.........manipulating the situation so that maybe a date can come out of it. That's not from the heart. That's not candid. That's despair.
Would we rather lasso them in to secure their attention, regardless of whether they just feel bound to giving it, or would we rather relish in the comfort and peace of knowing that it came on their own will. This is not 50's advice to never call a man or make your move. But do so only with pure intentions. The former will be met with excitement. It shows self-love and assuredness. Confidence and passion. If you act and you are rejected, then you must accept it. But you'll know that you followed your heart and if it did not lead you far, then that path was not meant for you. The latter will be met with resistance. It shows urgency, despair, distrust in yourself. Have you merely beguiled this man into your arms. You will not have the peace of mind, knowing that he is where he wants to be. Or at least, that he's there for the reasons you would like him to be there.
If you trust yourself, all the answers will fall into your lap. Men can be quite simple and marvelous creatures if we let them be. Generally full of good-will, but don't ruffle them up for sheer drama, or intrigue, out of despair. Just watch and listen w/out imposing your own agenda. If you feel you are pushing and rushing.....or, even annoying yourself, chances are that you are having that effect on him as well. Being upfront and honest will be happily met if it is coming from your center of peace. It will only strengthen your message. A weak, hesitant, rushed, uncomfortable push will lead no where.
It's not about changing your personality and style. Your independence and strength are uniquely wonderful qualities. Just don't let a relationship consume you.......pressure you...... You can be THAT person without suffocating the other person. We often push out of insecurity, fear, loneliness and frustration. It's been said that sometimes the delivery is more important than the actual message. Also been said that patience is a virtue. Put the two together and slow down. My wise girlfriends have shared this with me. They may have other weaknesses, but this is a strength of theirs that is helping me overcome a weakness of mine. For that I am grateful.
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