In The Meantime : Finding Yourself and the Love You Want

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Summary: Sincere Author But....
Review: I recently read Ms. Vanzant's latest work, and then re-read her prior works like this one. Yet that endeavor only convinced me it's time to move on. I truly admire Ms. Vanzant's courage: she doesn't merely mention skeletons in the closet -- she flings open the door and lets them dance out, with her joining in the rhythm movements, as well. Still, she's too tied to what I see as an extremely rigid, morose phlosophy, the Course In Miracles -- as fossilized. at times, as the traditional paths such teachers claim they needed to flee. Many of the author's ideas are fatally flawed -- It's unfortunate that she, and Marianne Williamson and others, like to quote my late cherished mentor, Joel Goldsmith. (Ms. Vanzant refers to him as her "Master). They are misleading seekers into thinking that Joel would have agreed with many of their principles. I used to leave aside this misinformation whenever it cropped up in the above teachers' works. Now I feel it really is rather disrespectful to him -- he spent his life encouraging others AWAY from the kind of advice these lecturers give. This particular book amply highlights that Ms. Vanzant (and Ms. Williamson, et al) like to fashion prayers asking God to let them be used for noble purposes. Joel always told us, Spirit cannot be used! Period. Even to ask to be used is a form of egoism, subtle self-serving manipulation, he asserted. I also think Ms. Vanzant, etc. is asking us to waste precious time, years even, in arduous techniques, workbook-questions, that are self-indulgent and unproductive. My heart goes out to you -- If interested, you owe it to yourself to read a wonderful book and methodology I discovered this past year. The book is called, EXCUSE ME, YOUR LIFE IS WAITING by LYNN GRABHORN. HUMOROUS, UPBEAT BOOK.A sense of fun pervades. To obtain your Good, You don't have to wait in the meantime, while working through "issues," or wait until you've improved your present image, circumstances. No more tedious work-assignments. No more poring through "lessons" or reading of ones suffered by authors -- (doesn't it seem as if lessons are lurking in every corner of the universe for these New Thought teachers? )By contrast, Ms. Grabhorn is onto something true, major, valuable. As disheartened as you may feel about life, really trust that there are faster, more effective ways of living life than the New Thought crowd is acknowledging.

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Summary: Relationship Destroyer?
Review: I have not yet read this book. What I do know, however, is that after reading "In the Meantime," my partner of six years abruptly ended our relationship, ruled out any possibility of reconciliation, and cut off all communication. A mere coincidence? Not likely, given the 158 reviews filled with such drivel as "cleaning house" and "getting the relationship you deserve". It is obvious after reading ALL the editorial and personal reviews that Vanzant not only encourages her readers to regard relationships as disposable, but also promotes a simplistic and naive concept of love. It really is disappointing to see so many positive reviews for what appears to be such blatent escapism. My sincere hope is that YOU never come face to face with a spouse/partner who has adopted Vanzant's world view, and now regards you as the first sack of garbage to be thrown out during spring cleaning.

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Summary: In the meantime
Review: Ths book reads waaay too much like a 12 step program.

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Summary: I really like this book
Review: Too often books about finding closure are more about blaming the ex than about searching within to see what choices we make that lead us into these various relationships. Taking responsibility for ourselves is the foundational thought of this book. For our relationships and our choices. I was pleased when I read this book and encourage others who are experiencing the need for closure to give themselves a copy of this. It will help you get through the meantime.

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Summary: Interesting Read
Review: In her book Ms. Vanzant talked about problem relationships and how the couples resolved their issues. Ms. vanzant invites us to honestly examine our life and start some cleaning to bring out our spiritual and mental growth. She relates a cluttered mind to a house that needs cleaning starting from the basement upward. Get rid of the anger, the bitterness, the hate and get ready for the love you want.

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Summary: Married with kids, after reading, expect a divorce
Review: I don't deny the fact that this book was helpful in allowing people in casual unhealthy relationships to take a closer look at their situations. I do however, feel that things change when you are married, have kids and have a firm believe in your wedding vows. No doubt this book gets you thinking about yourself and helping yourself, but I believe it falls short in re-enforcing a commitment that people have when they get married and bring children into the world.

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Summary: I found myself and the love I wanted!
Review: For the reader who is willing to examine his or her life honestly and openly, this book is amazing. Iyanla VanZant has forever changed my life. When I read the book, I was going through a period of depression and a series of bad relationships, but I was trying to make a change. I think I read this book at the perfect time. The book offers so much enlightenment, but I must stress that the reader has to really LISTEN to her message and think about how each of the points she makes applies to his or her own life. I offered the book to one of my friends who was not yet ready to examine her life but was having some relationship problems; she just didn't get it. Another friend of mine however, agreed with me that this book contains incredible wisdom for the open mind. I have applied Iyanla's principles and changed a lot of my negative thought patterns and I am now more confident, I am happier with myself, and I have been able to maintain a beautiful relationship. Once I changed myself with Iyanla's help, the relationship of my dreams just followed. I am now in a mutually respectful, loving relationship with literally the man of my dreams. I know that these claims are hard to believe, but I'm telling all of you prospective readers that Iyanla VanZant has a lot of wisdom to give. Those who are open to her message and open to changing the way they view themselves and others will benefit tremendously from Iyanla's wisdom. You may not benefit immediately because it takes time, patience, and a lot of struggle to honestly examine your own life, but it will pay off in the long run. Iyanla has given a great gift of wisdom to the world in this book.

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Summary: Thank you Iyanla!
Review: "In the Meantime" is an excellent book for those of us who are willing to take a deep look into one-self, to find the truth of where our happiness lies and how to get to it. How to clear away the bad "stuff" to get to the more pleasant "stuff". I found myself unable to put the book down, I couldn't wait to get to the next floor. Thank you Iyanla for helping me find true happiness within myself. I didn't know life could feel so good! And on my own! Thank you!

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Summary: In The Meantime
Review: This book, and the others that I have read by Iyanla have been essential in my journey to find myself. For this book to be effective in opening up your mind....you must first be willing and motivated to take a realistic look at yourself, honestly. Only then will you be able to take the wisdom that Iyanla shares and apply it to your own life. I realized that I had to do some major "house cleaning" in order to be worthy of "Mr Right". This book will show you how to avoid common relationship mistakes and give you hope. I would have never been brave enough to be honest about myself without reading "In The Meantime". If you read this book and don't find yourself opening up to some serious changes, you're in denial.

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Summary: In the Meantime is on the ground floor.
Review: Although I found this books interesting in its own way, I became bored after a while of reading. The book dragged on about self cleansing, but gave no real suggestions on how to keep yourself from falling back into the basement.