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Summary: Outdated and Biased...
Review: Being Borderline and having read many books on the topic, I think I am in a position to say that this book is both outdated and biased. It references the DSM III which still says in it that homosexuality is a mental disorder. I found the book rather offensive. It makes us seem like we are manipulative on purpose. No wonder some therapists are scared to take on a borederline patient. I have been in therapy more than 15 years and am currently in a DBT group. This is the best therapy. Marsha Linehan Ph.D. is a goddess. If you want to find GOOD books on borderline personality disorder, I recommend: Lost in the Mirror, Walking on Eggshells, and anything by Dr. John Gunderson (McLean Hospital in Belmont, MA) and Marsha Linehan.
Don't waste your money or time on "I Hate You, Don't Leave Me."
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Summary: I hated...I mean, I loved this book
Review: I don't mean to be overzealous about the results I received from reading this book, but it has changed my life. I never knew I had a borderline personality, I always thought I was more of a border crossing guard type personality, you know, never wanting to let people cross over into the deceitful, dark underworld that is my existence. However, I now realize that I am borderline, and like Madonna sang, "keep pushin' me, keep pushin' me, keep pushin' my love. C'mon baby, yeah." A MUST READ!
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Summary: A good book to start with
Review: A good definition of what BPD is as a whole. If you really want to understand BPD in depth, read this book along with others to get a full understanding about BPD. This is a good place to start if you want to understand BPD, but do not stop here...continue reading about BPD in other books. I found the suggestions that Amazon.com offered (other books that people who bought this book purchased) to be very helpful, too.
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Summary: A Rare Balance
Review: There's a reason Jerold Kreisman's self help groundbreaker remains a succinctly informative yet thorough must read about borderline personality disorder while activating instincts for self preservation, BP or nonBP. Dr. Kreisman and his coauthor achieve a rare balance between communicating the heartbreaking gravity of a prevalent and often undiagnosed and untreated mental illness and its effects on others and a firm optimism about the hard road to recovery. The crucial first step on that road, in Dr. Kreisman's wise words, is "conscious retreat from unhealthy situations and the will to build healthier foundations" -- a prescription appropriate for both borderline personalities and their loved ones. He does a particularly good job of deconstructing the damned if you do and damned if you don't trap in attention seeking suicide and death threats and in explaining his SET (Support Empathy Truth) principles of attempting healthy communication with a melodramatic borderline personality. While Stop Walking on Eggshells and The Courtship Dance of the Borderline have become the indispensable bibles of merciful validation for the human debris borderline personalities leave drained and horrified in their wake, I Hate You Don't Leave Me still wins the award for best nutshell title and cover in its category. A revised version is overdue.
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Summary: Reader from Reading, PA
Review: It took me awhile to get into this book alot of jargon I didn't get, it was a little informative about the borderline personalities of people but sometimes hard to understand and also very short, so I think this book is okay, just could of been more simplfied for the average reader and maybe a little longer in content.
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Summary: Allowing empathy for the hated
Review: Many people seem to see borderlines as impossible to deal with, hopeless, and beyond comprehension and human emotion. This book gives people the chance to connect emotionally with the pain of borderline personality disorder AND offers hope for change and healing. I recommend it to anyone diagnosed with BPD, close to someone with BPD, or treating someone with BPD.
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Summary: Eureka!
Review: ...I wanted to give my reaction. This little tome saved my sanity and improved my life tremendously. No, I don't have borderline personality disorder. But I had "parented" a friend 10 years older than I for many years, taking her from doctor to doctor, reading eleventy-trillion books, trying to help her. Then one day someone who didn't even know this person listened to me talking about her and told me I must go out and find this book right away. I did, and Eureka! This book described my friend and my difficulties with her to an absolute "T." What an incredible relief it was to finally know what her problem was, and how liberating to my conscience to read and understand that I could stop trying to fix her life. Every "fix" I'd made, from organizing her finances and cleaning up after the human debris she left in her wake, had gone right back into entropy and chaos anyway, when I'd handed them back to her all straightened out. I can't recommend this book highly enough to anyone dealing with someone who seems to have an insurmountable collection of mental, physical, and interpersonal problems. You may shout Eureka!! like I did, finding your friend on every page, reading about what you've been going through in every chapter, and, best of all, discovering that this book gives you the long-sought keys to understanding and relating to this person. In my case, I had been carrying such a heavy, weary weight for years, and the book helped me realize I could--and should--take off the kid gloves in talking and reacting to my friend. True to the BPD criterion of classifying people as either impossibly perfect, all-good, angels on earth; or foul treacherous enemies, I immediately went from the former to the latter. But you know what? That was the best thing that could happen to me. I have the peace of knowing I can't make her all better, and am quit of the tremendous amount of drama and mental exhaustion I had in this relationship. Boy, could I say more!! But this is a book review....back to business....my bottom line: if you are bored or disappointed in this book, I think you can reasonably conclude that you don't have BPD in your life. But I think it would be fascinating reading for anyone who enjoys reading about extreme psychology. I'll even go as far as recommending that everyone who comes across it take time to read it -- it's slim...--and there just may be BPD somewhere in your future. I fervently hope not.
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Summary: I Hate You, Don't Leave Me (Wr. by Kriesman and Straus)
Review: Borderline Personality Disorder (BPD from here on out) has quite a few symptoms that some of us might experience today: a shaky sense of identity, sudden violent outbursts, oversensitivity to real or imagined rejection, brief and turbulent love affairs, frequent periods of intense depression, eating disorders, drug abuse, or other self-destructive tendencies, an irrational fear of abandonment, and an inability to be alone (taken from the book).I am not familiar with this particular disorder, especially in this day and age when so many different psychological disorders exist and are talked about in the mass media almost constantly. The authors lay a groundwork through examples and the above listed behaviors to introduce a disorder that is not easily solved by a magic pill or a little therapy. However, and this is a big However, the book is marketed as a self help book, but reads like a very difficult and very dull academic paper that was presented at a conference somewhere. The authors cover all of this material, and yet can only suggest therapy and medicinal help to solve the problem. The authors also suggest to therapists how to work with BPD patients, family and friends get advice on how to deal with BPD sufferers, but virtually ignore anyone reading this who might think they suffer from BPD, except to talk about long therapy sessions, and how BPD sufferers may not react well to that therapy. The book has a copyright date of 1989, and has been reprinted dozens of times, but the book's publishers never felt a need to update the text, making awkward references to the Soviet Union and the Challenger explosion. Advances in anti-depressants are also ignored. With the modern cover, and reader friendly back cover notes, you might pick this up thinking "I have those symptoms, this will help." If anything this tome will lull you into complacent, calm boredom. I do not recommend this book. If you believe you are suffering from the above symptoms, you are better off seeking professional help instead of this.
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Summary: blah
Review: Kreisman towards the end seems to want to blame BPD (summarizing) on our mommies going to work and day care when hundreds of thousands of children grow up during either/or and come out just fine. In his preface he gently ridicule with the phrase "complex psychiatric jargon." Then not to scare off his colleagues since the book is for common folk, he suggests the simple book to them too. Anything for a profit. If more women tend to be BP then why does he refer to them as he through out the book?
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Summary: The title says it all
Review: This book does an great job of outlining many of the aspects of Borderline Personality Disorder. I had just read another excellent book, "The Courtship Dance of the Borderline" which I found very validating of my experience, but did not contain treatment options. When I searched for one that did, I found this and Stop Walking on Eggshells, which was also helpful. Borderline Personality is so complicated because one of the symptoms (rage) oftenends up hurting the people they love most. To love them in return you should know as much about the condition as you can. This book will help.
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