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Summary: More of the same societal stigmatism
Review: Dr. Harley is on the right track with his effort to help men and women put off themselves and serve their spouses. Unfortunately, it's the same rhetoric: that men need sex first and women need communication first. Sadly, society has been oppressing the women's sex drive since the beginning of time, telling us that sex is bad (not for nice girls). I read a quote from a 16th century woman that said that a woman's sex drive was 10 times that of a man. How strange that sounds in today's world -- yet I submit that it's true, and that all the propaganda is dead wrong. Ladies, you don't need another book to tell you what society thinks you should know. It's just not true. If you are married, then cut loose!
The best advice I got for my new marriage didn't need a book, since it was just one sentance: "Just put the other person first."
DO NOT use a book (this or any other) to stereotype your spouse. You'll only end up putting him/her in a box. Try really listening instead!
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Summary: A Little Old Fashion Values Can Go A Long Way
Review: I probably read this book ten years ago for the first time (buying it today as a wedding gift). I have now been happily married for over fifteen years. I give credit to this book for some of the adjustments we made early in our marriage.However, I must say, I clearly remember reading that a couple shouldn't do enjoyable things apart such as golfing, bowling or whatever. I, at that time, highly valued our separate evenings as a way of keeping our identities. After muling this thought over I began to clearly see that I didn't want my new husband to "do all his most favorite and enjoyable activities" without me. And vice versa. Learning to be aware of how I have the power to lift his self-esteem seeing how this comes back to me is not humbling - it is rewarding. Definitely a must read together to create a good starting point for a healthy marriage or "fixer upper" for a sick one. Debbie
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Summary: Excellent book
Review: My husband and I both read this book. I thoroughly enjoyed reading and learning about myself and my husband. Everything was pretty much right on the money.
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Summary: A marriage saver
Review: This book was recommended to me by my Christian Counselor. It literally saved my marriage. It gave me the tools to change my marriage from poor to passionate love for both of us. Whether your spouse agrees to initially participate or not, read this book and things will change. The information in this book will restore the feeling of being in love again. I am now studying to be a Marriage Counselor and Willard Harley will be my primary resource. I am a happily married 56 year old husband married 32 years. I am now reading other books by Harley.
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Summary: An excellent book - should be required premarital reading
Review: I wish I had found this book before my spouse had an affair. But now that we have found it, it has really helped us with the recovery process. If this book was required reading for all newlyweds we might have a far lower divorce rate. Marriage is tough and this book helps the parties focus on the constant need for attention toward your spouse, not overbearing attention, just awareness and thoughtfulness throughout the chaos of daily life. This book can and should save many marriages.
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Summary: WE GIVE THIS BOOK AS OUR 'STANDARD' WEDDING GIFT!!
Review: Out here in Ol' Wyoming, we don't prance around with fancy talk and political correctness and all that. We just tell it like it is. That's exactly how this book is written... the truth about men and women (and how different they are) is told 'as it is'. My wife and I read this book over ten years ago. We read it aloud in bed together. It switches between a 'man chapter' and a 'woman chapter', so we each read 'our own chapter' as it would come up. Wow! This guy tells it like it really is! I'd turn to my wife and say, 'Thank goodness YOU don't feel that way', only to hear her say, 'But that's EXACTLY how I feel!!'. Then, I'd read a chapter aloud of how a man feels about something (like his deep desire for 'it', and his deep desire for a foxy looking mate), and my wife would say, 'But, of course, YOU don't think like that.' 'WRONG! That's EXACTLY how I think and feel!!', I would reply. So, the whole idea behind this book is to get the nitty gritty out in the open that most couples won't dare talk about, and let each find out how different the other is. Then, we both decided to stop doing for the other person what we wanted done to ourself, and we started doing for the other person what the other person really wanted. WOW! That sure shot our marriage to the top of the charts! This book is a MUST READ for EVERYONE... married or not... but be ready to chat openly and honestly with each other about how the book does indeed tell it like it really is. Cowboy Bob
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Summary: A Must Read
Review: When I started reading His Needs, Her Needs I was starting to get a bit upset (ie: A husband needs an attractive spouse) but I talk to my Pastor and he said "You don't have to approve of everything in the book." Furthermore, my husband tells me everyday, how beautiful I look. Just as beautiful as the day we got married. I don't need makeup, go on a diet, change anything, because he loves me just the way I am. It's a great book and I recomend it to all couples. Wives, if your husbands are trying to change you, then why did you marry them in the first place?
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Summary: Good description of basic human nature
Review: I have been married for 10 years, and this book helped improve our marriage a great deal. Taking advice from this book I started dressing nicely. And I felt positive response from my husband, which felt good to me! A word of advice. Although this book applies to many men and women, I think priorities differ among individuals. In my case, my higher priorities in emotional needs are those described as "men's high-priority needs." So, if you feel uncomfortable accepting stereotypes in this book, just disregard the words, "men" or "women" and replace them with "humans."
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Summary: A good start for improving your marriage
Review: This was an easy-to-read book. It touched on the five basic needs that men and women share, and why they are generally different. (I only gave 4 our of 5 stars because I felt it focused a little too much on avoiding affairs--something many people do not worry about.) However, while the title says, "Building an Affair-Proof Marriage," it is not only a book about preventing affairs. In fact, I did not read this book with the intention of stopping affairs, but with the intention of learning what my partner's emotional and physical needs are. This is a good book for people with good marriages, as well as ones with struggling ones. It articulates problems and solutions in an effective manner. There are resources at the back, as well as a "needs" survey to take with your spouse. I highly reccomend this book to anyone wanting a better relationship with his spouse.
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Summary: It all makes sense
Review: His needs, Her needs makes it so very clear why marriages get into trouble and what we need to do to "affair proof" our marriage. I don't think I had ever heard expressed so clearly his idea that not having your needs met makes you vulnerable for a fall. My husband and I read the book together, so it gave us a platform for more discussion between us.
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