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Summary: Didn't even buy it!
Review: Okay, first I must admit that I haven't read this book. However, after hearing rave reviews about it from a friend, I had to check it out. But I flipped through the book before buying it, and was shocked at what I read! I began one chapter which told the story of a woman who was overweight and single. She decided to lose weight and dress nicer to attract a man. After getting married, she went back to her old self - overweight and "average" looking. The couple went in to see a councilor (I assume, the author), who told the woman that she needed to lose weight and dress up for her husband. I believe the author even recommends that wives should undergo plastic surgery to please their husbands - and this is supposed to by Bible-based advice? I nearly threw the book across the store! Needless to say, I didn't buy it. What about unconditional love in a marriage? Sure, we all have "needs," but some I believe are "worldly" and shallow - such as an "physically flawless" spouse! I hope that if I gain 100 lbs after my wedding day, my husband will not be tempted to have an affair! I wouldn't be worried about him running off with a more-attractive woman, simply because our relationship is built on more than physical attributes. Sorry for such a harsh review after just reading a few pages, but I couldn't stand to read more. Please correct me if my synopsis is incorrect, because I'd love to figure out what makes this book so great that Christian-based engagement retreats would actually recommend this book for reading... I totally agree with the review by Dawson McKnight on June 15, 2000 - I couldn't have said it better!
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Summary: Harley offers case studies and practical information
Review: Harley, a Family Psychologist of many years standing, offers examples from his many years of counseling married couples that are in trouble; several have already experienced extra-maritial affairs and have gone on to repair the damage and have "resurrected" their marriages using his methods and counsel. His main emphasis though is on preventing affairs from ocurring in the first place by the husband working to meet the special needs that women have, and the wife meeting the special needs that are unique to her husband. This is a highlight of the book, and key to understanding his work. In some ways his methods might seem a bit unorthodox. One example of this is the "togetherness" mode he speaks about. Couples should be doing all their recreational activities together, none of this, "his plans, my plans" thing. Find activities that you both like and do them together. He admits that this might be tough on men especially - the football addict types. But his reasoning is valid - affairs can occur when husband and wife are doing separate activities with like-minded people, people who share their interest in a subject. This is a good breeding gound for an affair to begin. Another unusual suggestion he makes, which I like as a women, is to let the women who work keep their paycheck; the man is the breadwinner, and should earn enough to pay all the bills. The woman works hard at homemaking and child-rearing and therefore deserves to use the money that she earns outside the home at her own discretion. I highly recommend his book. You cannot argue with success; Harley has saved many marriages which seemed doomed and virtually hopeless.
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Summary: His Needs, Her Needs
Review: My wife and I both read this book, it was recommended by a friend. The book was very informative about those things that men & women look for in their lives. It can vary from person to person, but overall it showed us those things that we needed to work on to make our lives better for each other. If you are looking for a great book to read on relationships in your marriage, and to keep it alive and well, this is a great book. We wish we would have read it long before we had a few problems in our marriage, but things are better than ever now.
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Summary: Just the thing for any relationship
Review: Don't let the title of this book scare you away. Though very few dating, engaged or married couples like to think that an affair could happen to their relationship, this book very realistically addresses the key issue: an affair is much more likely to happen if one or both people are not having their specific needs met. The book is extremely interesting & readable, using case examples taken from years of counseling experience. The author clearly believes in love and faithfulness that comes with love, but rightly points out that romance can only take you so far. All people have needs, and if we can understand the needs of our spouse (etc.) (and that their needs may be quite different from ours), it's the best ticket for having a happy relationship. Also includes worksheets as an appendix.
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Summary: Excellent
Review: This book was an excellent guide to understanding my husband's affair and how we can restructure our marriage to make sure that it does not happen again. I found it extremely straight forward and easy to understand.
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Summary: GOOD FOR THINKING ABOUT CURRENT RELATIONSHIPS.
Review: As I read this book I was intrigued with how I could improve my relationships with women in general. Not only is it a good book for marriages but it is also good for improving relationships with all women because there are principles that can be applied in many areas. It is easy to understand what the author is saying. I didnt agree with everything that was written but did find it was good for causing me to step back and getting a view of the "big picture" of relationships with women. I recommend this book for those who are not married but are wanting to improve relationships with all women. I say this because I am not married, never have been but see the value in the book. Enjoy...........
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Summary: Evokes good discussion
Review: My wife and I have been married for 30 years. While I may not agree with all of Harley's statements and his generalizations are a little too general, I found the book extremely valuable. It gave me insights in to myself and in to my wife that I would never have had otherwise. It also gave us information that evoked discussion that in itself was worth more than the price of the book. As with other reviewers, I was a little annoyed that so much time was spent on "Affair proofing your marriage". But that was the purpose of the book - hence the subtitle. It is not Harley's fault that I am reading it to improve my marriage rather than affair proof it. I notice one reviewer complained that it advocated an old fashioned marriage instead of a modern marriage. To some degree that reviewer was correct; however, whether you blame society or genetics, there are certain truths in western marriage and Harley does an excellent job of identifying them. I have bought ~30 copies of the book over the last 10 years or so to give as wedding gifts and am now buying another to give to my son. I have received more in-depth thank-yous for this book than any other gift I have ever given.
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Summary: Do You Want This Book?
Review: Dr. Harley does a good job with this general study. Too general I might add. His conclusions are correct but "Becoming One" by Joe Beam is a far superior study.
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Summary: Pretty basic I would hope most people would know this stuff!
Review: I read this book and I guess I was somewhat disappointed. We should all know this already and should not have to have someone tell us. I guess there were some good points in the book, but nothing I haven't heard or read before, and they were pretty hard to find. I would recommed the book "The First Years of Forever" by Ed Wheat, M.D. Which I enjoyed very much the examples were great and quotes and the sound Christian principles were wonderful I would give that book a 5-star. It made you think and realize that hey I can do better. I keep that book around for a reality check for my-self. Willard Harley's other book "Love Busters" was a much better book to read. I would not waste my money on "His Needs Her Needs". Pretty basics stuff that I would think we all should know! It did not keep my interest at all. Hope this helped!
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Summary: The Needs
Review: This book isnt a landmark and it is not the best relationship book out there but it does hit upon a very important element in Christian relationships, understanding each other's needs. Most men can understand that women NEED to be romanced. Men don't have that need so they can't imagine anyone else having that need. They believe it is a nice perk, like a trip to London. An outstanding book I recentely read on understanding women's needs is "The RoMANtic's Guide". Surprisingly it is written by a guy but he seems to know a lot more about women than most women (perhaps he really is a woman and uses a male pen name).
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